Etiquette for boys

 　　Callum: Hello and welcome to 6 Minute English. I’m Callum and with me today is Jennifer. Hello Jennifer.

　　Jennifer: Hello Callum.

　　Callum: Jennifer, did you go to a finishing school?

　　Jennifer: You mean one of those schools where young ladies learn how to behave in high society?

　　Callum: Yes, did you go to one?

　　Jennifer: What do you think?

　　Callum: Well, your manners and behaviour are so impeccable that I would not be surprised if you had.

　　Jennifer: Well, I don’t know about finishing school, but it sounds like you’ve graduated from charm¹ school!

　　Callum: In days gone by, social etiquette², or the way to behave in polite society, was something that well-to-do young ladies were tutored in. Today’s programme is all about a course being run now for teenage boys in an English school. Before we learn more about this, here’s today’s question. A question about etiquette. In a fancy restaurant, either side of your place setting there are different knives and forks for the different courses of your meal. Maybe there are three different forks on the left and three knives on the right. The question is, which should you use first? The knife and fork furthest from your plate, the set closest to your plate or the set in the middle? Jennifer, what do you think?

　　Jennifer: Well, I think I know the answer to this one. I think it’s outside-in. So I think the set furthest from your plate is the one you use first.

　　Callum: OK. We’ll find out if you’re right at the end of the programme. Fowey School in England has begun offering etiquette lessons to teenage boys. So whose idea was this? Here’s their Headmaster, John Parry, talking to our colleagues from BBC Radio.

　　Headmaster of Fowey School, John Parry:

　　The way it came about was that a group of girls actually wanted a course to prepare them for the Year 11 Leavers’ Ball which is, which is something which most schools do these days. They’re pretty sophisticated³ events, and the boys said, actually you know what, we want a piece of that as well.

　　Callum: Jennifer, whose idea was it?

　　Jennifer: It was the boys’ idea. John Parry said it ‘came about’ because, after the girls had asked for a course to prepare them for a special social event, the boys wanted one too. Or as he put it, the boys said, “We want a piece of that as well”. Which simply means, they wanted to be included as well.

　　Callum: And what special event are they all preparing for?

　　Jennifer: The Year 11 Leavers’ Ball. A ‘ball’ is big formal party and a leavers’ ball is held at the end of the school year, when students are leaving the school. John describes them as being ‘sophisticated events’.

　　Callum: Have you ever been to one of these?

　　Jennifer: Yes actually. When I left school we were one of the first years to have a leavers’ ball and it was a very glamorous⁴ event and quite sophisticated too.

　　Callum: Let’s listen to John Parry again.

　　Headmaster of Fowey School, John Parry: The way it came about was that a group of girls actually wanted a course to prepare them for the Year 11 Leavers’ Ball which is, which is something which most schools do these days.

　　They’re pretty sophisticated events, and the boys said, actually you know what, we want a piece of that as well.

　　Callum: Who is helping⁵ with the etiquette lessons? What are the kinds of things they are learning, and how do the boys feel about it? Here’s John Parry again.

　　Headmaster of Fowey School, John Parry:

　　We work very closely with a, with a local hotel who are teaching the boys, you know, all about etiquette, all about how to dress, how to act with confidence and so on. It’s gone down extremely well with the boys.

　　Callum: Jennifer, who is helping the lessons and what are they learning?

　　Jennifer: A local hotel is helping them out and teaching them things like how to dress and how to act with confidence.

　　Callum: Has it been popular?

　　Jennifer: Yes, John said that it’s ‘gone down extremely well’ with the boys. If something ‘goes down well’ it means that it’s been liked.

　　Callum: So what do you think of this Jennifer, do you think these are useful things for school boys to learn or does it seem maybe a bit old-fashioned?

　　Jennifer: I don’t think it’s old-fashioned. I think it’s useful for school boys and perhaps school girls to learn these manners and etiquette. It’s really nice when people hold doors open for you. It’s a very polite thing to do so I think everybody could do with a bit of education.

　　Callum: Yes, I completely agree. I’m just being polite there, you know. In the case of this school though, it’s not all about impressing girls at parties. Headmaster John Parry also believes there is a strong practical reason for learning etiquette. He thinks it can help overcome some of the problems that universities and employers have with young people. He explains more:

　　Headmaster of Fowey School, John Parry: One of the criticisms they make of students is that they know a lot of knowledge, they’re very

　　good in their exams but sometimes their social skills let them down. And we wanted our students to, you know, walk with confidence, you know, hold their head up high in any given social situation; whether that’s, you know a ball, as we’re doing, or whether that’s going for a university interview, a job interview.

　　Callum: So Jennifer, how can these classes help, apart from helping them with girls?

　　Jennifer: Well, by helping to build their confidence it can give them a better chance when applying for jobs or university places. He mentioned that even though students may be good at exams, they also need to have good social skills, they need to be confident. That could make the difference between their getting a job or not.

　　Callum: Yes, as he put it, he wants the students to be able to ‘hold their heads up high.’ An expression which means to be proud and confident. Let’s listen again.

　　Headmaster of Fowey School, John Parry:

　　One of the criticisms they make of students is that they know a lot of knowledge, they’re very good in their exams but sometimes their social skills let them down. And we wanted our students to, you know, walk with confidence, you know, hold their head up high in any given social situation; whether that’s, you know a ball, as we’re doing, or whether that’s going for a university interview, a job interview.

　　Callum: Well that’s just about all we have time for today. Before we finish, the answer to today’s question. When faced with a number of different knives and forks at a formal meal, which ones do you start with? Jennifer, you said?

　　Jennifer: Outside-in, the ones furthest from your plate.

　　Callum: That’s exactly right, yes.

　　Jennifer: Hooray!

　　Callum: Well done, well done. So thank you very much Jennifer and goodbye.

　　Jennifer: Goodbye.

1 charm   

vt.使着迷，使陶醉；n.招人喜欢之处，魅力

参考例句：

• With all imperfections the short play has a real charm.尽管有不少缺欠，这出小戏仍颇具魅力。
• He could resist her charm no longer.他再也抗拒不住她的魅力。

2 etiquette   

n.礼仪，礼节；规矩

参考例句：

• The rules of etiquette are not so strict nowadays.如今的礼仪规则已不那么严格了。
• According to etiquette,you should stand up to meet a guest.按照礼节你应该站起来接待客人。

3 sophisticated   

adj.老练的，精密的，尖端的，高雅的

参考例句：

• She has become very sophisticated since she went to live in London.移居伦敦后她变得世故多了。
• This is a very sophisticated machine.这是一台非常精密的机器。

4 glamorous   

adj.富有魅力的；美丽动人的；令人向往的

参考例句：

• The south coast is less glamorous but full of clean and attractive hotels.南海岸魅力稍逊，但却有很多干净漂亮的宾馆。
• It is hard work and not a glamorous job as portrayed by the media.这是份苦差，并非像媒体描绘的那般令人向往。

5 helping   

n.食物的一份&adj.帮助人的，辅助的

参考例句：

• The poor children regularly pony up for a second helping of my hamburger. 那些可怜的孩子们总是要求我把我的汉堡包再给他们一份。
• By doing this, they may at times be helping to restore competition. 这样一来, 他在某些时候,有助于竞争的加强。