TED演讲:为什么我们需要与陌生人交流(6)

 In Egypt, I'm told, it's rude to ignore a stranger, 在埃及，有人告诉我，无视陌生人是十分没有礼貌的做法，

and there's a remarkable¹ culture of hospitality². 并且有很多关于友善的文化。

Strangers might ask each other for a sip³ of water. 陌生人之间可以分享饮用水，

Or, if you ask someone for directions, they're very likely to invite you home for coffee. 或者如果你向当地人问路，他们很有可能会邀请你到家里喝杯咖啡。

We see these unwritten rules most clearly when they're broken, 只有当这些规矩被打破的时候，

or when you're in a new place and you're trying to figure out what the right thing to do is. 或者我们在新环境中想要入乡随俗，才会注意到这些本来习以为常的规矩。

Sometimes breaking the rules a little bit is where the action is. 有时候稍微破坏一下规矩就可以发现正确的举动。

In case it's not clear, I really want you to do this. OK? 万一正确的举动并不是那么明确，我很希望你们能这样做。

So here's how it's going to go. 可以试着这样寻求帮助。

Find somebody who is making eye contact. That's a good signal. 找一个和你在进行眼神交流的人。有眼神交流是一个很好的信号。

The first thing is a simple smile. 你首先要做的是微微一笑。

If you're passing somebody on the street or in the hallway here, smile. See what happens. 如果你在街道上或是走廊里与人擦肩而过，微笑一下，看看会发生什么。

Another is triangulation. There's you, there's a stranger, 另外要做的一件事是三角评估。在这个三角形中有你，一个陌生人，

there's some third thing that you both might see and comment on, 以及一件你们都能看到或者评价的物品，

like a piece of public art or somebody preaching⁴ in the street or somebody wearing funny clothes. 比如说一件艺术展品，或者是在街道上传教的人，或者是衣着滑稽的人。

Give it a try. Make a comment about that third thing, and see if starts a conversation. 试试看。对第三件事情稍加点评，看能不能开始一段对话。

1 remarkable   

adj.显著的，异常的，非凡的，值得注意的

参考例句：

• She has made remarkable headway in her writing skills.她在写作技巧方面有了长足进步。
• These cars are remarkable for the quietness of their engines.这些汽车因发动机没有噪音而不同凡响。

2 hospitality   

n.好客，殷勤；adj.（气候等）宜人，适宜

参考例句：

• He welcomed you to enjoy his hospitality.他欢迎你去做客。
• Thank you for your kind hospitality.谢谢你的盛情款待。

3 sip   

v.小口地喝，抿，呷；n.一小口的量

参考例句：

• She took a sip of the cocktail.她啜饮一口鸡尾酒。
• Elizabeth took a sip of the hot coffee.伊丽莎白呷了一口热咖啡。

4 preaching   

n.讲道，讲道法v.布道( preach的现在分词 )；劝诫；说教；宣传

参考例句：

• The man was preaching the Gospel. 此人在传布福音。 来自《简明英汉词典》
• These misguided people go around preaching up violence. 这些误入歧途的人到处鼓吹暴力。 来自《简明英汉词典》