TED演讲:如何培养出成功的小孩(1)

 You know, I didn't set out to be a parenting expert. 我从没想过做一个育儿专家。

In fact, I'm not very interested in parenting, per Se. 事实上，我本身对育儿也没什么兴趣。

It's just that there's a certain style of parenting these days that is kind of messing up kids,  只是因为当今有一种育儿方式会把孩子搞得一团糟，

impeding¹ their chances to develop into theirselves.  阻碍他们个人特质的培养。

There's a certain style of parenting these days that's getting in the way. 这种育儿方式，正大行其道。

I guess what I'm saying is, we spend a lot of time being very concerned about parents 我想说的是，我们花了很多精力去担心父母

who aren't involved enough in the lives of their kids and their education or their upbringing, and rightly so.  没有足够参与到孩子的人生、教育以及养育过程中，这理所当然。

But at the other end of the spectrum², there's a lot of harm going on there as well,  但如果走上另一个极端，也会有很多坏处，

where parents feel a kid can't be successful unless the parent is protecting and preventing at every turn 比如家长认为，孩子自己不可能成功，除非父母可以随时保护和纠正，

and hovering³ over every happening, and micromanaging every moment, 关注孩子的每件小事，掌控他们的每个细节，

and steering⁴ their kid towards some small subset of colleges and careers. 引导他们进入名牌大学，找到好工作。

When we raise kids this way, and I'll say we, because Lord⁵ knows, in raising my two teenagers,  当我们这样养育孩子，我用的是“我们”，因为上帝知道，在养育我的两个十来岁孩子的时候，

I've had these tendencies myself, our kids end up leading a kind of checklisted childhood. 我自己确实也有这种倾向，让我们的孩子过一种清单式的童年。

1 impeding   

a.(尤指坏事)即将发生的，临近的

参考例句：

• Fallen rock is impeding the progress of rescue workers. 坠落的石头阻滞了救援人员的救援进程。
• Is there sufficient room for the kiosk and kiosk traffic without impeding other user traffic? 该环境下是否有足够的空间来摆放信息亭？信息亭是否会妨碍交通或者行走？ 来自About Face 3交互设计精髓

2 spectrum   

n.谱，光谱，频谱；范围，幅度，系列

参考例句：

• This is a kind of atomic spectrum.这是一种原子光谱。
• We have known much of the constitution of the solar spectrum.关于太阳光谱的构成，我们已了解不少。

3 hovering   

鸟( hover的现在分词 )； 靠近（某事物）； （人）徘徊； 犹豫

参考例句：

• The helicopter was hovering about 100 metres above the pad. 直升机在离发射台一百米的上空盘旋。
• I'm hovering between the concert and the play tonight. 我犹豫不决今晚是听音乐会还是看戏。

4 steering   

n.操舵装置

参考例句：

• He beat his hands on the steering wheel in frustration. 他沮丧地用手打了几下方向盘。
• Steering according to the wind, he also framed his words more amicably. 他真会看风使舵，口吻也马上变得温和了。

5 lord   

n.上帝，主；主人，长官；君主，贵族

参考例句：

• I know the Lord will look after him.我知道上帝会眷顾他的。
• How good of the Lord not to level it beyond repair!上帝多么仁慈啊，竟没有让这所房子损毁得不可收拾！