TED演讲:如何培养出成功的小孩(6)

 And even though we might help them achieve some short-term¹ wins by overhelping 即使我们可以通过这种过度帮助来让他们获得一些短期的成功

like they get a better grade if we help them do their homework,  比如帮他们做作业而拿到的好成绩，

they might end up with a longer childhood résumé when we help 在我们的帮助下，他们可能会有一个更好看的童年简历，

what I'm saying is that all of this comes at a long-term cost to their sense of self.  我要说的是，这些会让他们在自我认知上付出长期的代价。

What I'm saying is, we should be less concerned with the specific set of colleges they might be able to apply to or might get into 我要说的是，我们应该更少关注具体哪些名牌大学他们应该申请或进入，

and far more concerned that they have the habits, the mindset, the skill set, the wellness, to be successful wherever they go. 而更多关注他们的习惯、心态、技能、身心健康，有了这些，他们才能在哪儿都成功。

What I'm saying is, our kids need us to be a little less obsessed² with grades and scores 我要说的是，孩子需要我们少一点痴迷于成绩和分数，

and a whole lot more interested in childhood providing a foundation³ for their success built on things like love and chores. 而将重点放在打造一个能帮助他们为成功奠基的童年上，比如爱，比如做家务。

Did I just say chores? Did I just say chores? I really did. But really, here's why. 我刚才是说做家务么？确实是的。说真的，这是有理由的。

The longest longitudinal study of humans ever conducted is called the Harvard Grant⁴ Study. 史上历时最长的人类研究被称作哈弗格兰特研究。

It found that professional success in life, which is what we want for our kids,  这项研究发现，专业上的成功，也就是我们期望孩子达到的，

that professional success in life comes from having done chores as a kid,  取决于小时候做的杂活，

and the earlier you started, the better, that a roll-up-your-sleeves- and-pitch-in mindset,  越早开始越好，这种挽起袖子开干的心态，

a mindset that says, there's some unpleasant work, someone's got to do it,  这种心态代表着：可能有些不想做的工作，总要有人去完成它，

it might as well be me, a mindset that says, I will contribute my effort to the betterment of the whole, 这个人也可能就是我，这种心态代表着：我会尽力去改善整件事情，

that that's what gets you ahead in the workplace. Now, we all know this. You know this. 这就是让你在工作中获得先机的东西。我们都清楚这个道理，你们也都清楚。

1 short-term   

adj.短期的

参考例句：

• The short-term training class has been run three times.短训班办了三期。
• For this they are running short-term courses and evening classes.为此，他们办了短训班和夜校。

2 obsessed   

adj.心神不宁的,鬼迷心窍的,沉迷的

参考例句：

• He's obsessed by computers. 他迷上了电脑。
• The fear of death obsessed him throughout his old life. 他晚年一直受着死亡恐惧的困扰。

3 foundation   

n.[pl.]地基；基础；基金会；建立，创办

参考例句：

• The foundation of the university took place 600 years ago.这所大学是600年前创办的。
• The Foundation gives money to help artists.那家基金会捐款帮助艺术家。

4 grant   

vt.同意给予，授予，承认；n.拨款；补助款

参考例句：

• If you grant my request, you will earn my thanks.如果你答应我的要求，就会得到我的感谢。
• He requested that the premier grant him an internview.他要求那位总理接见他一次。