谈恋爱别嫉妒-察觉并确认另一半的感觉(2)

 谈恋爱别嫉妒

 

Acknowledge and affirm your partner's feelings

 

察觉并确认另一半的感觉

 

To nip jealousy¹ in the bud, first youhave to take ownership of your feelings and understand how your behavior impactsyour partner.

 

想要将嫉妒掐灭在萌芽之中，那你首先得了解自己的感情、明白自己的行为会如何影响另一半。

 

For example, if your partner does notfeel good when you stay out late with a co-worker, this doesn't mean that youacquiesce to everything your partner wants.

 

比如，如果你和同事在外呆到很晚让另一半很不爽，这并不意味着你默认了另一半想要的一切。

 

However, it goes a long way when you sayto your partner, 'I know that you feel upset with the amount of time andattention that I am giving to this other person. I don't want you to feel thatway.'

 

然而，你可能要过很久才会对另一半这样说，'我知道你不开心，不开心我和另一个人共处那么久、不开心我对他的关注。我不想你这样。'

 

With that statement, you acknowledgedhow your partner was feeling and you told them that you don't want them to behurt by your behavior.

 

说完这句话后，你承认了另一半的感情，而且还告诉他你不想因为自己的行为而让他受伤。

 

-Chantel Cohen, owner of CWC Coachingand Therapy in Atlanta, GA

 

--乔治亚州亚特兰大CWCCoaching and Therapy的老板钱特尔·科恩

1 jealousy   

n.妒忌，嫉妒，猜忌

参考例句：

• Some women have a disposition to jealousy.有些女人生性爱妒忌。
• I can't support your jealousy any longer.我再也无法忍受你的嫉妒了。