感悟人生-Unit 01 I Try to Remember 处世良言记在心

1. Everybody doesn’t have to love me．无须人人都爱我

Not everyone has to love me or even like me. I don’t necessarily¹ like everybody I know, so why should everybody else like me? I enjoy being liked and being loved，but if somebody doesn’t like me, 1 will still be okay and still feel like I am an okay person. I cannot make some-body like me anymore than someone can get me to like them. I don't need approval² all the time. If someone does not approve of me. 1 will still be okay.

2.It is okay to make mistakes．犯错误没什么大不了的

Making mistakes is something we all do, and I am still a fine and worthwhile person when I make them. There is no reason for me to get upset when I make a mistake. I am trying，and if I make a mistake, I am going to continue trying. I can handle making a mistake. it is okay for others to make a mistakes too. I will accept my mistakes and also the mistakes that others make.

3.Other people are okay and I am okay.互相尊重

People who do things that I don’t like are not necessarily bad people. They should not necessarily be punished just because I don’t like what they do or did. There is no reason why other people should be the way I want them to be, and there is no reason why I should be the way somebody else wants me to be. People will be whatever they want to be, and I will be whatever I want to be. I cannot control other people or change them. They are who they are; we all deserve³ basic respect.

4.I don’t have to control things．

I will survive if things are different than what 1 want them to be. I can accept things the way they are, accept people the way they are, and accept myself the way I am. There is no reason to get upset if I can’t change things to fit my idea of how they ought to be. There is no reason why I should have to like everything. Even if I don’t like it, I can live with it.

5.I am responsible for my day

I am responsible for how I feel and what I do. Nobody can make me feel anything. If I have a rotten⁴ day. I am the one who allowed it to be that way. If I have a great day, l am the one who deserves⁵ credit⁶ for being positive. It is not the responsibility of other people to change so that I can feel better. I am the one who is in charge of my life.

6.I can handle it when things go wrong．

I don’t need to watch out for things to go wrong. They usually go just fine，and when they don’t．I can handle it. I don’t have to waste energy worrying. The sky won’t fall in things will beokay.

7.It is important to try

I can．Even though I may be faced with difficult tasks, it is better to try than to avoid them. Avoiding a task does not give me any opportunities for success or joy, but trying does. Things worth having are worth the effort. I might not be able to do everything. But I can do something.

8.I am capable⁷．

I don’t need someone else to take care of my problems. I am capable. I can take dare of myself. I can make decisions for myself. I can think for myself. I don’t have to depend on somebody else to take care of me.

9.I can change.

I don’t have to be a certain way because of what has happened in the past. Every day is a new day. It's silly to think I can’t help being the way I am. Of course I can. I can change.

10.Other people are capable.

I can't solve other people's problems for them. I don't have to take on other people's problems as if they were my own. I don't need to change other people for fix up their lives. They are capable and can take care of themselves, and can solve their own problems. I can care and be of some help, but I can't do anything for them.

11 I can be flexible

There is more than one way to do something. More than one person has had good ideas that will work. There is no one and only”best”way. Everybody has ideas that are worthwhile. Some may make more sense to me than others, but everyone’s ideas are worthwhile, and everyone has something worthwhile to contribute.

1 necessarily   

adv.必要地，必需地；必定地，必然地

参考例句：

• More work does not necessarily call for more men.增加工作量不一定就要增添人员。
• A voter must necessarily be no younger than eighteen.选民必须在18岁以上。

2 approval   

n.赞成，同意；批准，认可

参考例句：

• The audience has expressed its approval.观众已经认可。
• The teacher signed his approval.老师做了手势表示同意。

3 deserve   

vt.应受，值得；vi. 应受报答，值得受赏

参考例句：

• You really deserve a good beating,you naughty boy.你这个调皮孩子真该打。
• I do not deserve all the praises bestowed upon me.我不配得到这些赞扬。

4 rotten   

adj.腐烂(朽)的；令人不愉快的；糟糕的

参考例句：

• The book was pretty rotten.这本书糟透了。
• Rotten eggs give off a bad smell.臭蛋散发出难闻的气味。

5 deserves   

v.应受，应得，值得( deserve的第三人称单数 )；应受报答；应得报酬；应得赔偿

参考例句：

• A wilful fault has no excuse and deserves no pardon. 不能宽恕故意犯下的错误。 来自《简明英汉词典》
• He is the only poet in this country that deserves the name. 他是这个国家唯一的一位名副其实的诗人。 来自《现代汉英综合大词典》

6 credit   

n.信用，荣誉，贷款，学分；v.归功于，赞颂，信任

参考例句：

• I credit him with a certain amount of sense.我认为他有一定的见识。
• He got the credit,and we did the dirty work.他得荣誉，我们做不讨好的工作。

7 capable   

adj.有能力的，有才能的

参考例句：

• The new woman secretary was extremely clever and capable.这位新来的女秘书很是精明强干。
• Jim is capable at sports.吉姆擅长运动。