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How To Handle Criticism

Criticism can be of three kinds:

1. That which is justified¹ and fair.

2. That which may be justified but is delivered in a hostile manner.

3. The unjustified or brutal² put-down.

Most people react badly to all three types of criticism. We tend to take critical remarks as a direct attack on our total worth. People in the arts and professions, if they good at what they do, use constructive³ criticism to their advantage. But most of us go to great lengths to avoid getting criticized. The frist step in learning to handle criticism:make sure you are really being criticized.

Most of the time, if you bother to examine the situation, no criticism was really intended. Also, don't invite criticism by such asking insincere questions such as-Did you really like it? Or how did I do? If you can't take a frank or honest answer to such questions you are better off not asking them.

If the criticsm is justified, see it in its proper perspective.

If a criticism is unjustified, practice control. Stay cool. Do not give the person who has unfairly criticized you the satisfaction of knowing he has scored.

It's always a good idea to consider the source. Criticism always hurts. But it should not hurt coming from the ignorant, the rude, the uninformed.

It is not good idea to brood on criticism. Try to dispors it quickly by judging it as either deserved or unjustified.If it is deserved, make a resolution to correct the fault and then forget it. Do not let criticism poison a whole day.

And, keeping in mind how much it hurts,you should not criticize others.

1 justified   

a.正当的，有理的

参考例句：

• She felt fully justified in asking for her money back. 她认为有充分的理由要求退款。
• The prisoner has certainly justified his claims by his actions. 那个囚犯确实已用自己的行动表明他的要求是正当的。

2 brutal   

adj.残忍的，野蛮的，不讲理的

参考例句：

• She has to face the brutal reality.她不得不去面对冷酷的现实。
• They're brutal people behind their civilised veneer.他们表面上温文有礼，骨子里却是野蛮残忍。

3 constructive   

adj.建设的，建设性的

参考例句：

• We welcome constructive criticism.我们乐意接受有建设性的批评。
• He is beginning to deal with his anger in a constructive way.他开始用建设性的方法处理自己的怒气。