美国国家公共电台 NPR Empowering Kids In An Anxious World

 

NOEL KING, HOST:

Rates of anxiety and depression have been rising for years, and experts say, grown-ups, you guys are part of the problem. But here's NPR's Cory Turner with some good news.

CORY TURNER, BYLINE¹: Grown-ups can be part of the solution, too.

KATHERINE REYNOLDS LEWIS: Kids are play-deprived nowadays.

TURNER: Katherine Reynolds Lewis is a journalist, parent, parent educator and the author of one of those two new books. It's called "The Good News About Bad Behavior."

LEWIS: Two or three decades ago, children were roaming neighborhoods in mixed age groups playing pretty unsupervised.

TURNER: Remember "The Goonies"?

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SEAN ASTIN: (As Mikey Walsh) Our parents, they want the bestest (ph) stuff for us.

TURNER: The 1985 hit about kids hunting for pirate treasure is a love letter to the power of parent-free play.

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ASTIN: (As Mikey Walsh) Down here, it's our time. It's our time down here.

TURNER: Lewis says in decades past, free play empowered kids, giving them important skills they'd use for the rest of their lives.

LEWIS: So they were able to resolve disputes. They planned their time. They managed their games. They had a lot of autonomy, which also feeds self-esteem and mental health.

TURNER: These days, though, free play is on the decline, Lewis says, and so are the social and emotional skills that come with it.

LEWIS: To build self-control, we need to stop controlling children.

TURNER: Part of the problem is parents who worry that unsupervised play is just too risky². But the risk, Lewis says, is part of the point.

LEWIS: To have falls and scrapes and tumbles and discover that they're OK, they can survive being hurt.

TURNER: In many families, Lewis says, play has also been crowded out by parents' increased focus on academics. William Stixrud is not one of those parents.

WILLIAM STIXRUD: When my kids were in elementary school, I said, now, I'm happy to look at your report card, but I don't care that much. I care much more that you work hard to develop yourself.

TURNER: Stixrud is a neuropsychologist and co-author of that other new parenting book, "The Self-Driven Child." He says academics are important, but kids have to be in the driver's seat, learning to manage their work, their time, and ideally being able to pursue their own interests. That freedom, he says, helps kids develop internal motivation. Stixrud's daughter Jora, who now has a Ph.D. in economics, still remembers first grade, when she brought a paper home from school. Jora says her parents were supposed to sign it every day, proving she'd read for 15 minutes.

JORA LAFONTAINE: He looks at it, and just kind of laughs and just signs every single line on it and said that he did not want to turn reading into homework or a chore.

TURNER: When Jora was an A student in high school, she attended a talk her dad gave about why we shouldn't focus on grades. William Stixrud remembers his daughter pushing back that night. Driving home, she said, you know, I liked the lecture, but you don't really believe that stuff about the grades.

LAFONTAINE: And so I said to my dad, if you don't get grades, you're not going to get into a college, or at least, you won't get into a good college.

TURNER: And if you don't go to a good college, you won't get a good job.

LAFONTAINE: So my dad said, I will give you a hundred dollars if you're willing to get a C in one of your classes. And I laughed and said, no way; you don't mean that.

STIXRUD: And I told her I absolutely believed it. I believed enough that I offered her a hundred bucks³ for a C.

TURNER: Stixrud says his daughter already took school very seriously, and he wanted her to understand...

STIXRUD: One thing that seems like a disaster - it's just not that big a deal.

TURNER: Jora didn't take her dad up on that hundred-dollar offer, but she says it meant a lot, knowing that the only person really pushing her to succeed was her. Cory Turner, NPR News, Washington.

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1 byline   

n.署名；v.署名

参考例句：

• His byline was absent as well.他的署名也不见了。
• We wish to thank the author of this article which carries no byline.我们要感谢这篇文章的那位没有署名的作者。

2 risky   

adj.有风险的，冒险的

参考例句：

• It may be risky but we will chance it anyhow.这可能有危险，但我们无论如何要冒一冒险。
• He is well aware how risky this investment is.他心里对这项投资的风险十分清楚。

3 bucks   

n.雄鹿( buck的名词复数 )；钱；（英国十九世纪初的）花花公子；（用于某些表达方式）责任v.（马等）猛然弓背跃起( buck的第三人称单数 )；抵制；猛然震荡；马等尥起后蹄跳跃

参考例句：

• They cost ten bucks. 这些值十元钱。
• They are hunting for bucks. 他们正在猎雄兔。 来自《简明英汉词典》