神秘谈判成功秘诀

 　　Using effective questioning

　　问一些有建设性的问题

　　问一些有建设性的问题是成功协商议题的基石。这是给了双方一个机会来表明双方各自在关键议题上的态度，例如目标及期望。多问一些开放式的问题将可以尽早给予彼此阐述观点的机会。

　　例如，你可以这样问"What are you hoping to achieve today?"Recovering from offending someone

　　克服对方敌对意识

　　谈判中往往会遇到对方强烈的敌对意识，这时候你必须设法克服它。通常的方法是接受对方的“排斥”，但将之转化为正面的作用。

　　你可以说"If I seemed sharp a few moments ago, be assured that it was only due to my determination to make this work."

　　Showing humility¹

　　展现亲和力

　　谈判是双方沟通的过程，所以必须避免陷于一连串的"I' m right,you' re wrong"的情形。展现亲和力尊重那些对象，千万不要装做已有所有答案，请把一些议题的控制权让给别人

　　你可以说"That' s more your area of expertise² than mine, so I' d like to hear more."

　　Recovering from negotiation³ breakdown⁴

　　让谈判“起死回生”

　　当对方因愤怒、怨恨或不愿意聆听而使得双方关系濒临决裂的时候，要特别注意具有建设性的对谈。承认错误并且展现诚意是让谈判起死回生的好办法。

　　你可以说"What happened last week was unacceptable as it was unintentional. Shall we move on?" In business, skilled negotiation can be the difference between making a million dollar contract and being fired.

　　在商场上，谈判的结果可能是签下几百万美元的合同，也可能是一无所有。

1 humility   

n.谦逊，谦恭

参考例句：

• Humility often gains more than pride.谦逊往往比骄傲收益更多。
• His voice was still soft and filled with specious humility.他的声音还是那么温和，甚至有点谦卑。

2 expertise   

n.专门知识(或技能等)，专长

参考例句：

• We were amazed at his expertise on the ski slopes.他斜坡滑雪的技能使我们赞叹不已。
• You really have the technical expertise in a new breakthrough.让你真正在专业技术上有一个全新的突破。

3 negotiation   

n.谈判，协商

参考例句：

• They closed the deal in sugar after a week of negotiation.经过一星期的谈判，他们的食糖生意成交了。
• The negotiation dragged on until July.谈判一直拖到7月份。

4 breakdown   

n.垮，衰竭；损坏，故障，倒塌

参考例句：

• She suffered a nervous breakdown.她患神经衰弱。
• The plane had a breakdown in the air,but it was fortunately removed by the ace pilot.飞机在空中发生了故障，但幸运的是被王牌驾驶员排除了。