好方法帮你迅速提高亲和力

 职场的成功不仅仅只靠个人的专业技能，人际关系显得更加重要，具有亲和力的人往往更受上司同事欢迎。

Here is VideoJug's guide to looking more approachable. Judi James, our body language expert and author of 'Body talk At Home', shows you how to send out the right signals so you come across as approachable and as someone everyone wants to meet.

Step 1: Body barriers 躯体屏障

These signal to people to leave you alone and make you seem extremely unapproachable. Therefore, avoid folded arms or gestures such as holding a drink close to your chin as it implies to the other person you'd rather be left alone.

Step 2: Use your eyes 使用你的眼睛

Your eyes can signal approachability. Don't stare or just look at the floor, but scan the room with your eyes as this shows that you are open to approach.

Step 3: Smile with your eyes 用眼神微笑

Soften¹ your eye expression and don't be blank or vacant, as smiling with your eyes really does show that you are friendly.

Step 4: Smiling with the mouth 用嘴巴微笑

his is an evolutionary² aspect, an animal signal of introduction. A nice, genuine smile shows again that you mean to be friendly.

Step 5: Intentional³ gestures 含蓄的手势

These make communication easier. When shaking hands, put your hand out at a distance and not at the last minute as this encourages more of a response.

When you want to interrupt, raising your hand slightly will signal to people that you want to speak.

Step 6: Self-comfort gestures 自我安慰的动作

You do these when feeling anxious or under pressure, and it makes it seem as if you don't want to speak to people. Also beware of metronomic gestures such as foot tapping, as these signal to people that you are impatient and do not have time for them.

1 soften   

v.(使)变柔软；(使)变柔和

参考例句：

• Plastics will soften when exposed to heat.塑料适当加热就可以软化。
• This special cream will help to soften up our skin.这种特殊的护肤霜有助于使皮肤变得柔软。

2 evolutionary   

adj.进化的；演化的，演变的；[生]进化论的

参考例句：

• Life has its own evolutionary process.生命有其自身的进化过程。
• These are fascinating questions to be resolved by the evolutionary studies of plants.这些十分吸引人的问题将在研究植物进化过程中得以解决。

3 intentional   

adj.故意的，有意（识）的

参考例句：

• Let me assure you that it was not intentional.我向你保证那不是故意的。
• His insult was intentional.他的侮辱是有意的。