你是否也患上了点赞依赖症

 How many times do you check your Moments or Facebook page in a day to see whether your latest post has got another "like" or "thumbs up"?

你一天会检查多少次你的朋友圈或脸书，查看你最新发布的状态是否得到了他人的喜欢或点赞呢?

Although you might be embarrassed to admit how many times you do this, don't worry - psychological findings have shown it's completely normal.

也许你可能会不好意思承认自己刷了多少次，其实不用担心，心理学家研究证明，这种情况完全正常。

In fact, the pleasure we derive¹ from getting a "like" is equal to that of eating chocolate or winning money, and we can't help wanting more.

其实，当我们得到一个“赞”时感受到的快乐和我们吃巧克力或者赢钱是一样的，而且我们情不自禁地想要更多。

你是否也患上了点赞依赖症

According to the findings of the UCLA Brain Mapping Center, which observed 32 teens aged² between 13 and 18, the feedback circuit in the teens' brains are particularly sensitive, and the "social" and "visual" parts of their brains were activated³ when they received "likes" on an Instagram-like social network.

根据加利福尼亚大学洛杉矶分校的大脑图谱中心对32位13到18岁的青少年观察进行研究，结果表明这些年轻人的大脑反馈回路都极为敏感，而且当他们在Instagram这类的社交网站上被点赞时，他们大脑中的社交和视觉部分会活跃起来。

The research also showed that though the thumbs up might come from complete strangers, the good they derive from it worked all the same.

研究还表明，即使点赞来自于完全陌生的人，也能给他们带来相同的愉悦感。

So, does it mean we should try our best to win as many thumbs up as possible?

那么，这是否意味着我们要尽可能获取更多的赞呢?

Not necessarily so if we know the reasons behind our desire for attention.

如果我们知道原因是在于我们渴望被关注，就没有必要了。

In "Why do people crave⁴ attention" by M.Farouk Radwan, he explained several cases in which people naturally longed for attention.

在M.法鲁克 拉德温所著的“为什么人渴望被关注”中，他解释了几种人们生来就渴求关注的情形。

Radwan said people who were an only child, who were used to being the center of attention in their house, may try to replicate⁵ these conditions. Feeling "overlooked and unappreciated" might also lead you to crave for attention. Other times, the state of being jealous, or wanting to cover your mistakes may also contribute to such longings⁶.

拉德温表示，独生子女们常常是其家庭关注的焦点，所以他们可能会试图复制这种情形。当感到“被忽视或不被欣赏”时也会试图获取他人关注，其他诸如嫉妒，或试图掩盖错误时也会产生这种渴求。

In fact, too much desire for attention can create anxiety, and in turn ruin your happiness even when you get it.

事实上，太过渴求关注会导致焦虑，甚至会在你得到关注的时候反过来破坏你的幸福感。

So what can we do about it? The answer is quite simple.

那么，我们该怎么办呢?答案非常简答。

"If people could adopt goals not focused on their own self-esteem but on something larger than their self, such as what they can create or contribute to others, they would be less susceptible⁷ to some of the negative effects of pursuing self-esteem," wrote psychology⁸ professor Jennifer Crocker in the Journal of Social Issues.

心理学教授詹妮弗克罗克在《社会问题周刊》上写道，“如果人们能够不只关注自尊，而是将焦点放在比自身更大的目标上，比如能够给别人创造或贡献什么，那么他们就能减少自尊心带来的负面影响。”

Crocker suggests that "it's about having a goal that is bigger than the self."

克罗克建议，“在于有一个大于自身的目标。”

So perhaps the answer to our addiction⁹ to "likes" is simply to focus on something larger than ourselves - a tall order, but a worthy¹⁰ one.

所以，若想戒掉我们对于”赞“的上瘾，只需关注比我们自身更重要的事情，一些艰难，却有意义的事。

1 derive   

v.取得；导出；引申；来自；源自；出自

参考例句：

• We derive our sustenance from the land.我们从土地获取食物。
• We shall derive much benefit from reading good novels.我们将从优秀小说中获得很大好处。

2 aged   

adj.年老的，陈年的

参考例句：

• He had put on weight and aged a little.他胖了，也老点了。
• He is aged,but his memory is still good.他已年老，然而记忆力还好。

3 activated   

adj. 激活的 动词activate的过去式和过去分词

参考例句：

• The canister is filled with activated charcoal.蒸气回收罐中充满了活性炭。

4 crave   

vt.渴望得到，迫切需要，恳求，请求

参考例句：

• Many young children crave attention.许多小孩子渴望得到关心。
• You may be craving for some fresh air.你可能很想呼吸呼吸新鲜空气。

5 replicate   

v.折叠，复制，模写；n.同样的样品；adj.转折的

参考例句：

• The DNA of chromatin must replicate before cell division.染色质DNA在细胞分裂之前必须复制。
• It is also easy to replicate,as the next subsection explains.就像下一个小节详细说明的那样，它还可以被轻易的复制。

6 longings   

渴望，盼望( longing的名词复数 )

参考例句：

• Ah, those foolish days of noble longings and of noble strivings! 啊，那些充满高贵憧憬和高尚奋斗的傻乎乎的时光！
• I paint you and fashion you ever with my love longings. 我永远用爱恋的渴想来描画你。

7 susceptible   

adj.过敏的，敏感的；易动感情的，易受感动的

参考例句：

• Children are more susceptible than adults.孩子比成人易受感动。
• We are all susceptible to advertising.我们都易受广告的影响。

8 psychology   

n.心理，心理学，心理状态

参考例句：

• She has a background in child psychology.她受过儿童心理学的教育。
• He studied philosophy and psychology at Cambridge.他在剑桥大学学习哲学和心理学。

9 addiction   

n.上瘾入迷，嗜好

参考例句：

• He stole money from his parents to feed his addiction.他从父母那儿偷钱以满足自己的嗜好。
• Areas of drug dealing are hellholes of addiction,poverty and murder.贩卖毒品的地区往往是吸毒上瘾、贫困和发生谋杀的地方。

10 worthy   

adj.(of)值得的，配得上的；有价值的

参考例句：

• I did not esteem him to be worthy of trust.我认为他不值得信赖。
• There occurred nothing that was worthy to be mentioned.没有值得一提的事发生。