让你无意间就变傲慢的七种肢体语言

 　　肢体语言也是可以传达信息的哦！七个小习惯让你无意间就变傲慢。一起随小编来本期英语阅读中了解一下吧！

　　You need to be conscious of yourbody language. It's advice you've heard time and time again. But, in most cases, you're warned that your nonverbal cues could be making you look unconfident. Shuffling¹ feet, slouching, and small gestures — they're all evidence of a lack of self-assuredness that you do your best to avoid.

　　注意你的肢体语言。这是你一次次听过的建议。但，大部分情况下，你得到的都是这样的警示,即：你的肢体暗示让你看上去不够自信。脚动来动去，没精打采的以及一些小的动作都成了你想极力避免掉的，显现自己缺乏自信的证据。

　　But what about the exact opposite? Are there any body language habits that could be making you look arrogant²? Yes, there definitely are certain movements and mannerisms that can make you look ,and big-headed. Avoid these common ones, and you're sure to send the right message.

　　可反过来的情况你有想过吗？有没有一些肢体习惯让人看上去很傲慢呢？是的，确有一些行为让人看上去自大、傲慢。赶紧改掉这些常见的坏毛病吧，您一定能发出恰当的信息。

　　英语阅读

　　1. Avoiding eye contact

　　1.避开目光接触

　　"But wait!" you're likely thinking now, "I thought lack of eye contact was one of those things that could make me look unconfident." And that's true. But, depending on your demeanor³, avoiding direct eye contact with people can also serve to make you look incredibly arrogant. Why? Well, to put it simply, it makes it look as though you're unwilling⁴ (and perhaps even too good) to actually engage in the conversation. Whether you're scanning the room for a better opportunity or repeatedly glancing down at your phone, it can easily make your conversational⁵ partner feel unworthy of your time and full attention.

　　不过，先等下！”你可能会想，“我原以为不正视别人会让自己看上去不自信。”是，确实是这样。但这还得看你的行为方式，避免直接与人眼神交流还可以让你看起来非常傲慢。为什么呢？好吧，就简单的说吧，因为那样会让你看上去不愿意（甚至感觉不真实）认真参与谈话。不管你是在扫描周围以找到一个更好的契机，还是不停瞥手机，都很容易让对方产生不值得让你给予时间和注意力的感觉。

　　2. Crossing your arms

　　2.交叉双臂

　　We all know that this isn't necessarily the most approachable posture⁶. Even if it's subconscious⁷, this stance closes you off from others. It makes you look inaccessible⁸ and perhaps even a little angry. You don't want to send the message that you're uninterested or too good to be there. So open up your posture. It instantly makes you appear friendlier and more willing to engage in conversations.

　　我们都知道这绝不是什么平易近人的姿势。哪怕它是潜意识的，这种姿势都会让你遭到排斥。因为它会使你看上去难以接近，甚至有点生气的感觉。你其实并不想给人以那样的信息，就是看上去漠不关心，没兴趣或者很虚伪的样子。所以请打开你的姿势。那样会瞬间让你变得更友好或者比之前更愿意融入谈话中。

　　3. Holding your chin too high

　　3.下巴抬太高

　　This is another one of those times when you need to walk a fine line. To appear confident, you want to hold your chin up. But, take it too far, and suddenly you seem condescending⁹. People do not like to feel that someone is literally¹⁰ looking down at them when speaking. So make sure to strike a balance here. Focus on keeping your head level. That way, you won't run the risk of muttering to the floor, but you also won't take this confidence booster to the extreme.

　　这是另一个需要你小心的地方。为了看上去自信，你往往就会抬高下巴，但其实是做过了头，因为那样的话，你看上去立马会让人感觉高人一等。人们可不喜欢在谈话的时候感觉被对方轻视。因此这里一定要注意调衡。注意你头的高度。那样，你既不会冒着对地板讲话的风险，更不会看上去过于自信以至于让人反感。

　　4. Pointing your finger

　　4.拿手指别人

　　Remember when you were younger and your mom would lecture you to not point? There's a good reason — it can easily come off as a rude and aggressive gesture. Unfortunately, it's a trap that's a bit too easy to fall into. Whether you're waving your finger around in a heated discussion or simply trying to direct someone to the appropriate place, pointing often feels natural. But, if you want to stick to the safe side, do your best to avoid it and gesture with an open hand instead. It achieves the same result, without being quite so combative¹¹.

　　还记得小时候妈妈教导你不要拿手指别人吗？那是很有道理的，因为那样的姿势表现得很粗鲁，也很有攻击性。不幸的是，那确是一个太容易让人掉进去的陷阱。不管你是在一个热烈讨论的场合挥舞你的手指，还是只是简单地给人指路，“指”这个行为似乎看上去是如此地正常、自然。但如果你想保险一点的话，就请尽量避免这样的姿势。你可以直接用手啊。用整个手既可以达到一样的效果又不至于看上去对别人不敬。

　　5. Checking your watch

　　5.看手表

　　This one should be obvious. However, if you've ever been engaged in a conversation with someone who continues to not-so-subtly glance at his wrist (or the time on his phone), you know that far too many people do this very thing. Of course, this gesture immediately portrays¹² a high level of boredom--as if you're checking the time to see how soon you can escape. It's another one of those habits that make you appear to think that you're too important to be there. So do your best to avoid it.

　　这一点应该是显而易见的。如果你曾与那样的人有过谈话，就是不断看手表（或手机上的时间），看时间的动作又不敏锐或者说又不巧妙，你会发现，有很多人还是会做这样的行为。当然，这种姿势立马能表现出你感到非常无聊。就好像你正在看时间，看还有多久能结束并离开。这是另外一种让你看上去自以为了不起，自大的习惯。因此请尽量避免。

　　6. Sighing

　　6.叹气

　　Yes, letting out a deep sigh can feel good every now and then — but that doesn't mean you want to do it while someone else is speaking.

　　While you might not necessarily consider it body language, it's still a nonverbal cue that can send a pretty strong message. Most people equate¹³ sighing with being uninterested, exasperated¹⁴, or judgmental about what's being said. Even if that wasn't your intention, a heavy sigh will almost always be taken the wrong way.

　　是的，时不时地叹气感觉还是很好的，但这并不意味着在别人讲话的时候，你还想要那么做。即使你并没有把叹息当成什么肢体语言，它却是一种非语言类暗示，且能够发出强烈的信息。大部分人会把叹息和不感兴趣，恼怒或者对别人所说的东西武断评价等同起来。尽管你不是有意而为，深深的叹息总会被人误解。

　　7. Forgetting about your facial expressions

　　7.忘记你的表情

　　A completely deadpan¹⁵ face can cause you to look unconfident and unengaged, so you want to make sure to be expressive¹⁶. But you also need to be careful about what expressions you use. An obvious eye roll, a raised eyebrow¹⁷, or pursed lips can all make your conversational partner feel uneasy and self-conscious. You're better off keeping your facial expressions as neutral (and polite!) as possible.

　　一张完全面无表情的脸会让你看上去不自信且心不在焉的样子，于是你就想着要表情丰富一点。但关于表情的使用还是要小心为妙。一个明显的翻白眼，扬扬眉，或者撅撅嘴都能让对方感觉不安和不自在。你最好让你的表情更适中（和礼貌！）

　　Much of the advice you hear about body language advises ways to tweak your mannerisms to appear more confident. But you don't want to swing so far in that direction that you come off as cocky. Stay away from these seven common habits, and you'll avoid falling into that arrogance¹⁸ trap.

　　你所听到的关于肢体语言的建议基本都是提倡调整姿势，以示更加自信。但你并不想改变过头以至于看上去变得自大。所以远离这七个常见的小习惯，就不会落入傲慢的陷阱了。

1 shuffling   

adj. 慢慢移动的, 滑移的 动词shuffle的现在分词形式

参考例句：

• Don't go shuffling along as if you were dead. 别像个死人似地拖着脚走。 来自英汉文学 - 嘉莉妹妹
• Some one was shuffling by on the sidewalk. 外面的人行道上有人拖着脚走过。 来自英汉文学 - 嘉莉妹妹

2 arrogant   

adj.傲慢的，自大的

参考例句：

• You've got to get rid of your arrogant ways.你这骄傲劲儿得好好改改。
• People are waking up that he is arrogant.人们开始认识到他很傲慢。

3 demeanor   

n.行为；风度

参考例句：

• She is quiet in her demeanor.她举止文静。
• The old soldier never lost his military demeanor.那个老军人从来没有失去军人风度。

4 unwilling   

adj.不情愿的

参考例句：

• The natives were unwilling to be bent by colonial power.土著居民不愿受殖民势力的摆布。
• His tightfisted employer was unwilling to give him a raise.他那吝啬的雇主不肯给他加薪。

5 conversational   

adj.对话的，会话的

参考例句：

• The article is written in a conversational style.该文是以对话的形式写成的。
• She values herself on her conversational powers.她常夸耀自己的能言善辩。

6 posture   

n.姿势，姿态，心态，态度；v.作出某种姿势

参考例句：

• The government adopted an uncompromising posture on the issue of independence.政府在独立这一问题上采取了毫不妥协的态度。
• He tore off his coat and assumed a fighting posture.他脱掉上衣，摆出一副打架的架势。

7 subconscious   

n./adj.潜意识(的)，下意识(的)

参考例句：

• Nail biting is often a subconscious reaction to tension.咬指甲通常是紧张时的下意识反映。
• My answer seemed to come from the subconscious.我的回答似乎出自下意识。

8 inaccessible   

adj.达不到的，难接近的

参考例句：

• This novel seems to me among the most inaccessible.这本书对我来说是最难懂的小说之一。
• The top of Mount Everest is the most inaccessible place in the world.珠穆朗玛峰是世界上最难到达的地方。

9 condescending   

adj.谦逊的,故意屈尊的

参考例句：

• He has a condescending attitude towards women. 他对女性总是居高临下。
• He tends to adopt a condescending manner when talking to young women. 和年轻女子说话时，他喜欢摆出一副高高在上的姿态。

10 literally   

adv.照字面意义，逐字地；确实

参考例句：

• He translated the passage literally.他逐字逐句地翻译这段文字。
• Sometimes she would not sit down till she was literally faint.有时候，她不走到真正要昏厥了，决不肯坐下来。

11 combative   

adj.好战的；好斗的

参考例句：

• Mr. Obama has recently adopted a more combative tone.奥巴马总统近来采取了一种更有战斗性的语调。
• She believes that women are at least as combative as are.她相信女性至少和男性一样好斗。

12 portrays   

v.画像( portray的第三人称单数 )；描述；描绘；描画

参考例句：

• The museum collection vividly portrays the heritage of 200 years of canals. 博物馆的藏品让运河200 年的历史再现眼前。 来自《简明英汉词典》
• The film portrays Gandhi as a kind of superman. 这部电影把甘地描绘成一个超人。 来自《简明英汉词典》

13 equate   

v.同等看待，使相等

参考例句：

• You can't equate passing examination and being intelligent.你不能把考试及格看成是聪明。
• You cannot equate his poems with his plays.你不可以把他的诗歌和他的剧本相提并论。

14 exasperated   

adj.恼怒的

参考例句：

• We were exasperated at his ill behaviour. 我们对他的恶劣行为感到非常恼怒。
• Constant interruption of his work exasperated him. 对他工作不断的干扰使他恼怒。

15 deadpan   

n. 无表情的

参考例句：

• Some people don't catch his deadpan humor,that makes it even funnier.有些人不能了解他那种无表情的幽默，因此更有趣。
• She put the letter on the desk in front of me,her face deadpan,not a flicker of a smile.她把那封信放在我面前的桌子上，故意一 脸严肃，没有一丝的笑容。

16 expressive   

adj.表现的，表达…的，富于表情的

参考例句：

• Black English can be more expressive than standard English.黑人所使用的英语可能比正式英语更有表现力。
• He had a mobile,expressive,animated face.他有一张多变的，富于表情的，生动活泼的脸。

17 eyebrow   

n.眉毛，眉

参考例句：

• Her eyebrow is well penciled.她的眉毛画得很好。
• With an eyebrow raised,he seemed divided between surprise and amusement.他一只眉毛扬了扬，似乎既感到吃惊，又觉有趣。

18 arrogance   

n.傲慢，自大

参考例句：

• His arrogance comes out in every speech he makes.他每次讲话都表现得骄傲自大。
• Arrogance arrested his progress.骄傲阻碍了他的进步。