别的女人背地里说你坏话怎么办？

 　　1. Confront¹ them

　　1. 面对她们

　　If someone judges you every time you meet them, it may be useful to simply talk to them. A frank² conversation usually helps women to understand each other. You may discover some facts you didn`t know about her and it may help you to understand her attitude towards you. You may even be able to prove that you are not as bad as she thinks. Don’t do it, though, if you see that she doesn’t even try to understand you.

　　如果某人每次一看见你就对你评头论足，那就简单地跟她们说几句，也许会有用。一个坦诚的谈话通常有助于女性互相理解。你也许会发现事实上你对她并不了解，这也许能有助于了解她对你的看法。也许你甚至能够证明你不是她想象中的那样坏。但是，如果你发现她甚至都不想要去了解你的话，就不要这样做。

　　2. Don’t judge them

　　2. 别去评判她们

　　Just because other women judge you for being strong and independent doesn’t mean you can judge them for being weak and passive³. Like it or not, people are afraid of strong women – probably because they are not brave enough to be a bit stronger than they are. They may be jealous⁴ of you and the fact that you`re better than they are. Instead of judging them, try to help boost⁵ their self-esteem and inspire them to become stronger.

　　仅仅只是因为别的女人评价你为坚强而独立并不意味着你就可以说别人软弱消极。不管你喜不喜欢，人们都害怕坚强的女人——也许是因为她们没有足够的勇气变得像她们那么勇敢。她们也许会嫉妒你，但事实是你比她们更优秀。试着帮助她们激发自信并且鼓励她们变得更坚强，而不是去评价她们。

　　3. Don’t lose motivation

　　3. 不要失去动力

　　Strong women always have a reason to be strong. Whether it was your choice or something or someone pushed you to become strong, you should never forget your root motivation. The success you have now is the result of your hard work. Focus on your own life and ignore those who’s trying to ruin it.

　　坚强的女人总是有理由去变得强大。不管是你的选择还是某些事或者某些人逼你去变得更坚强，你都永远不应该忘记你的初衷。你现在拥有的成功是你努力的结果。专注于你自己的生活而别去在意那些试着毁了这一切的人。

　　4. Realize your mission⁶

　　4. 明白自己的使命

　　Every successful woman should realize that her mission isn`t all about herself only. You`re a perfect role model for the young ladies. When looking at you and your achievements they`ll try to catch up with you and understand that nothing can prevent them from getting what they want. You make the world better by just being yourself.

　　每个成功的女性都应该明白自己的使命不是仅仅只是关乎自己一个人。你是年轻女性的完美典范。当她们看到你的时候，也会努力地去追求你所拥有的成就，并且明白没有什么是可以阻挡她们追求自己想要的东西。你如真地做自己，才让世界变得美丽。

　　5. They’re not worth your attention

　　5. 她们并不值得你注意

　　As a successful woman you have plenty of things to do and your schedule is always busy. Every minute, every second, every moment of your life is extremely important. Then, why do you waste your precious time worrying about other people`s opinions and judgments⁷? Women who are constantly judging you simply have nothing else to do. They are lucky to have a lot of free time for gossips⁸ while you are trying to reach your goals and boost your success.

　　作为一个成功的女性，你有很多事情要做，并且你的排期总是很满。每一分钟，每一秒钟，甚至你生命中的每一刻都是非常重要的。那么，为什么你要浪费你宝贵的时间在担心别人对你的意见或者评价上呢？那些经常在背后评论你的女人们只是因为没事可做。当你在试着达到你的目标跟追求成功的时候，她们却很幸运地拥有很多闲暇的时间来八卦。

　　6. It`s your own choice

　　6. 这是你自己的选择

　　Among anything else you should remember is that it was your own choice to become strong and independent and you probably knew what to expect. You`re not the first successful woman in the world, after all. Those role models you were looking for the inspiration<sup>9</sup> from also had the same problems with other women`s judgement. You should be wiser and stronger to deal with the difficulties you can`t avoid.

　　在别的其他事中你需要记住的就是，是你自己选择让自己变得更坚强跟独立，并且也许你知道未来会是什么样的。毕竟你不是这世界上第一个成功的女性。这些你正在寻求鼓舞典范也许跟你一样有同样被别人指指点点的问题。你应该更理智更坚强地去处理这些你无法避免的困难。

　　7. It makes you stronger

　　7. 这会让你更坚强

　　Their attitude wouldn`t kill you and what doesn`t kill you makes you stronger. Their gossips and judgments are useless. In fact, if someone talks about you that means you`re important and popular. Learn how to ignore them. Remember you are smarter and stronger than they are.

　　她们的态度不会打败你，反而只会让你变得更坚强。她们的流言蜚语是没有用的。事实上，如果某人谈论你的话，那就表示你很重要并且很受欢迎。学着怎么去忽略她们。记住，你比她们更聪明更坚强。

　　8. Find support

　　8. 找到一些支持你的人

　　Women tend to compete with one another and they usually regard other women as their opponent¹⁰ and it starts from the early childhood. That`s why you may find it difficult to get any support from other women when you`re successful. However, you have family and friends and they can easily help you to stay confident and stay positive even if you`re always judged.

　　女人们总是喜欢跟别人比较，并且通常会把别的女性当做是自己的敌人，这从童年就开始了。那就是为什么你会发现当你成功的时候，很难去从别的女人那里获得支持。但是，你有家庭跟朋友，她们很容易就会帮你保持自信心和积极性，即便你总是被评判。

1 confront   

vt.遭遇，勇敢地面对，正视，使对质

参考例句：

• A soldier has to confront danger.士兵须面对危险。
• We must confront future with optimism.我们必须乐观地面对未来。

2 frank   

adj.坦白的，直率的，真诚的

参考例句：

• A frank discussion can help to clear the air.坦率的谈论有助于消除隔阂。
• She is frank and outgoing.她很爽朗。

3 passive   

adj.被动的；消极的

参考例句：

• He has a passive expression on his face.他脸上有一种漠然的表情。
• It lands the manager in a passive position.它使经理处于被动地位。

4 jealous   

adj.妒忌的，猜忌的；精心守护的

参考例句：

• He was jealous when he discovered that she loved someone else.当他发现她爱别人的时候，他吃醋了。
• An honorable Chinese citizen should be jealous of his own rights.一名光荣的中国公民应当珍惜自己的公民权利。

5 boost   

n.鼓励，激励，提高；v.鼓励，使增强信心

参考例句：

• This will be a great boost to the economy.这对于经济发展将是一个巨大的促进。
• These changes will help to boost share prices.这些变化将有助于提高股票价格。

6 mission   

n.使命，任务，天职；代表团，使团

参考例句：

• He was charged with an important mission.他受委托承担一项重要使命。
• I'll leave you to undertake an important mission.我要让你承担一项重要使命。

7 judgments   

判断( judgment的名词复数 )； 鉴定； 评价； 审判

参考例句：

• A peculiar austerity marked his judgments of modern life. 他对现代生活的批评带着一种特殊的苛刻。
• He is swift with his judgments. 他判断迅速。

8 gossips   

n.流言( gossip的名词复数 )；闲谈；爱拨弄是非的人；八卦

参考例句：

• She's with me at the house.Let the gossips do their worst. 她跟我待在这间房子里，让人们去说三道四吧。 来自《简明英汉词典》
• Their gossips abraded her into restlessness. 他们的流言蜚语使她心烦意乱。 来自《简明英汉词典》

9 inspiration   

n.灵感，鼓励者，吸气

参考例句：

• These events provided the inspiration for his first novel.这些事件给了他创作第一部小说的灵感。
• What an inspiration she was to all around her!她对于她周围所有的人是一种多么大的鼓舞！

10 opponent   

n.对手，敌手，反对者；adj.敌对的，反对的

参考例句：

• The boxer gave his opponent a punch on the nose.这个拳击手朝他对手的鼻子上猛击一拳。
• After a fierce struggle,he got a beat on his opponent.经过殊死的较量，他占了对手的上风。