如何抵制欺骗的诱惑

 　　1. Think it through thoroughly¹

　　1．彻底考虑清楚

　　When you find yourself in the situation of whether or not you’re going to go down the cheating route, always take a moment to think it through thoroughly.

　　当你发现自己处在一种是否要走欺骗路线的时候，一定要花时间彻底考虑清楚。

　　Often times, thinking goes out the door when confronted with urges. One of the best ways to separate your urges from the actual act of cheating is to add some thinking time into the mix. Try it the next time you find yourself in a tricky² situation.

　　当面对欲望地时候，往往要仔细考虑清楚。将你的欲望与实际的欺骗行为分开，最好的办法就是花一些时间去思考。下次你发现自己处于一种欺骗的情况的时候，可以试一下。

　　2. Phone a supportive friend

　　2.给一个支持自己的朋友打电话

　　It’s important to have someone on hand that you can trust. Someone who isn’t judgemental, who will be available to talk about the situation without blabbing it to anyone. Most importantly, your partner.

　　有一个可以真正信任的人在身边，是很重要的事情。这个人不会以审判的态度看你，你可以和他谈论你的情况，而且不用担心他会泄密给其他人。最重要的是，你的伴侣。

　　Even though you should have a conversation with your partner as soon as you find yourself feeling tempted³ to cheat, it should definitely only come from you. Find a supportive friend who can offer external advice.

　　即使在你发现自己被欺骗所诱惑的时候，应该尽快与你的伴侣谈话，这也绝对应该只能从你的口中说出来。找到一个可以给你额外建议的支持你的好朋友。

　　3. Remember the consequences

　　3.记住后果

　　There will always a reaction to every action, whether positive or negative. Remember that the next time you find yourself in the situation of choosing whether or not you’re going to cheat.

　　人们对每个行为都会有一定的反应，无论是积极的还是消极的。在你下次发现自己处于是否要去欺骗的情况下的时候，要记住这一点。

　　As an adult, you have to be willing to face the consequences, whatever they may be. It could be that you live with the guilt⁴ forever or lose your partner’s trust in the process.

　　作为一个成年人，你不得不去面对后果，无论结果怎样。后果可能是你需要永远活在愧疚中，或者在此过程中失去你伴侣的信任。

　　4. Be open with your partner

　　4.对你的伴侣敞开心扉

　　Open communication is key to solving any problem – regardless of the severity. Always be open with your partner about your needs, your urges, and most importantly, the instant when cheating becomes a small thought.

　　敞开心扉的沟通是解决任何问题的关键——不管严重程度如何。要对你的伴侣一直敞开心扉谈论你的需要，你的欲望，最重要的是当欺骗成为了一个小小的思绪的时候就告诉他。

　　It’s a sign that something needs to change within your relationship, soon. Otherwise, you may end up in a situation that you’ll regret forever – especially if children are involved. Always consider the wellbeing of your children when finding out how to resist the temptation to cheat.

　　这是你们的关系需要很快改变的一个迹象。否则，你或许会陷入一个永远后续的结局——尤其是涉及到孩子的时候。当你找到抵制欺骗诱惑的办法的时候，要时刻考虑你的孩子的幸福。

1 thoroughly   

adv.完全地，彻底地，十足地

参考例句：

• The soil must be thoroughly turned over before planting.一定要先把土地深翻一遍再下种。
• The soldiers have been thoroughly instructed in the care of their weapons.士兵们都系统地接受过保护武器的训练。

2 tricky   

adj.狡猾的，奸诈的；(工作等)棘手的，微妙的

参考例句：

• I'm in a rather tricky position.Can you help me out?我的处境很棘手，你能帮我吗？
• He avoided this tricky question and talked in generalities.他回避了这个非常微妙的问题，只做了个笼统的表述。

3 tempted   

v.怂恿（某人）干不正当的事；冒…的险（tempt的过去分词）

参考例句：

• I was sorely tempted to complain, but I didn't. 我极想发牢骚，但还是没开口。
• I was tempted by the dessert menu. 甜食菜单馋得我垂涎欲滴。

4 guilt   

n.犯罪；内疚；过失，罪责

参考例句：

• She tried to cover up her guilt by lying.她企图用谎言掩饰自己的罪行。
• Don't lay a guilt trip on your child about schoolwork.别因为功课责备孩子而使他觉得很内疚。