五大理由让女性出轨

 　　As far as stereotypes¹ go, a wandering eye and the urge to jump into bed with multiple partners seems to be built into a man's DNA², but when it comes to cheating, the sexes are created more equally than we think. （Cough, Kristen Stewart, cough。） Renee Lee, a relationship expert with a masters in psychology³, dishes out five reasons why women cheat。

　　1. Going Through A Transition

　　“If it is graduating, turning a certain age, losing a parent or advancing the relationship status, women become introspective,” explains Lee. “Even if it is something she wants, such as just getting engaged or graduating, the transition can stir up an array of emotions about where her life is going or where she is in it. The discomfort⁴ of change can trigger an impulsive⁵ desire to find someone to take her focus off the change and be a diversion for what she is going through.”

　　2. Not Feeling Adequately Celebrated⁷

　　We've all been here: “May it be getting a promotion⁸, organizing a fundraiser, or making Thanksgiving dinner for a party of 20, men often make the misstep of ”not complimenting their partner's achievements,“ Lee says. ”Women seek an emotional connection that their partner notices them, is proud of their achievements, and appreciates what they do, so when they aren't getting this at home the residual⁹ effects lead to feelings of frustration¹⁰, dissatisfaction, depression, and restlessness.“

　　And that's when they could go looking for it elsewhere. ”When you are living in the day to day with someone, it is challenging to step outside a situation and notice the things that do matter to someone,“ adds Lee ”As this wears down over time, so as soon as the woman encounters someone who ignites the spark they are lacking at home, they equate⁶ it to an emotional connection and seek companionship with someone else.“

　　3. Feeling A Relationship Ending

　　”When a woman feels that uneasy sense that a relationship is on the outs, by either her doing or his, she will often look to fill the void externally to soften¹¹ the blow,“ Lee reasons for a woman's infidelity. ”If she is the one considering the breakup, she may be using this tactic¹² as a challenge to herself both testing the waters, and then gauge¹³ if she can go through with it.“

　　4. It's Just Not Fun Anymore

　　But it's too hard to pull the plug. ”When you don't laugh, you don't love. Laughter is one of the key elements in a relationship that often gets overlooked,“ Lee explains, simply. ”When stresses of day to day life become the dominant¹⁴ factor in a relationship, women feel unhappy. When they come across a coworker, or friend that they have a good time with, it suddenly brings to light what is missing in their own relationship and becomes tempting¹⁵ to act upon.“

　　5. It's Boring In The Bedroom

　　Men aren't the only ones who need to spice things up. ”Women need to feel desired!“ Lee declares. ”If she is not getting any, enough, or nothing to talk about, women start to feel a sexual void. With the popularity of books such as Fifty Shades of Grey, television shows, or listening to friends talk about their fun single trysts¹⁶, women have that moment when they compare their love life at home to what the rest of the world seems to be experiencing.“ And that's when she may start to wonder what she's missing。

　　”Though it is easy to pinpoint¹⁷ the flaws in one's sex life, it is often hard to make the changes needed to correct them,“ adds Lee. ”This creates a temptation in women to seek sexual satisfaction elsewhere with someone they don't have the baggage with and can be more uninhibited.“

　　Now you know why women cheat. But we say, if you're thinking about cheating, just break up with the guy, before you move on to a new one。

　　说到男性，大多数人都会觉得他们骨子里是欲望动物：眼神游离不定，还想要拥有多位性伴侣。但是，说到出轨，也许男女比我们想象得更加”平等“。（比如克里斯汀？斯图尔特）心理学硕士、两性关系专家蕾妮-李给出了以下5个女性出轨的理由。

　　1、正在经历转变

　　”如果正面临毕业，到了某个年纪，失去至亲或感情状态更进一步，女性会开始反思自己。“蕾妮解释道，”即使这些是她想要的，比如订婚或者毕业，但这些转变还是会在内心激起波澜，她们不禁会思考应该何去何从，或者她自身的状态。这些变化带来的不快会使人一时冲动去另寻他人来分散自己的注意力，让自己暂时逃避目前的处境。“

　　2、觉得不够被重视

　　我们都有过这样的情况：”工作上得到晋升，组织了一次募捐活动，又或者给20人聚会准备感恩节晚餐，男性常忽略的一点是：没有好好赞扬妻子的成就。“蕾妮说，”女性总是希望她们的丈夫能给予她们更多关注，为她们的成就而自豪，并感谢她们的付出。所以，当她们在家里得不到这些情感需求时，她们会觉得受挫、不满、沮丧、不安。“

　　这时候她们就可能会另寻关心。”当你日复一日地和另一半一起生活后，经常会忽视掉对另一半真正重要的事情。“蕾妮补充道，”随着时间的流逝，一旦女性此时遇到一个可以弥补这些的男性，她们就会视之为感情，进而想和对方进一步发展关系。“

　　3、觉得感情关系走到尽头

　　”当一个女性觉得这段感情快要枯萎，不管是自己还是对方所致，她可能会向外寻求慰藉来填补目前的空虚，使自己不至于受到太严重的打击。“蕾妮在分析女性的背叛时，认为”如果她是那个想要分手的人，那她可能会用这种策略来挑战自己同时探探风头，然后寻思是否能这样做。“

　　4、生活没有欢乐

　　但却很难停下来。”当你们之间没有了笑声，没有了爱……欢笑是一段关系中很重要的元素，但却经常被忽略。“蕾妮简单地解释道。”当紧张压抑成为每天的主旋律时，女方会觉得不开心。当她们遇到一位可以共度美好时光的同事或朋友时，她们会突然发现这正是目前的感情关系里所没有的，因而会甘愿冒险。“

　　5、床上生活较枯燥。

　　并不是只有男性需要调动情趣。”女性也需要得到满足。“蕾妮声称，”如果她的需求得不到满足，女性会开始感到性空虚。“在女性阅读《五十度灰》等热门书籍、观看电视节目、或听朋友聊单独约会的乐趣时，会将自己的爱情生活和其他人相比较。”蕾妮补充道，“这个时候她会想想自己错过了什么。”

　　“尽管很容易就可以找出性生活方面的不足之处，但想要改正过来却有些难。”蕾妮补充道，“这会诱使一些女性出去另寻无拘无束的性满足。”

　　现在你明白了为什么女性会出轨。但是如果你也正打算出轨，先去和另一半分手吧，然后再去找下一位。

1 stereotypes   

n.老套，模式化的见解，有老一套固定想法的人( stereotype的名词复数 )v.把…模式化，使成陈规( stereotype的第三人称单数 )

参考例句：

• Such jokes tend to reinforce racial stereotypes. 这样的笑话容易渲染种族偏见。
• It makes me sick to read over such stereotypes devoid of content. 这种空洞无物的八股调，我看了就讨厌。 来自《现代汉英综合大词典》

2 DNA   

(缩)deoxyribonucleic acid 脱氧核糖核酸

参考例句：

• DNA is stored in the nucleus of a cell.脱氧核糖核酸储存于细胞的细胞核里。
• Gene mutations are alterations in the DNA code.基因突变是指DNA密码的改变。

3 psychology   

n.心理，心理学，心理状态

参考例句：

• She has a background in child psychology.她受过儿童心理学的教育。
• He studied philosophy and psychology at Cambridge.他在剑桥大学学习哲学和心理学。

4 discomfort   

n.不舒服，不安，难过，困难，不方便

参考例句：

• One has to bear a little discomfort while travelling.旅行中总要忍受一点不便。
• She turned red with discomfort when the teacher spoke.老师讲话时她不好意思地红着脸。

5 impulsive   

adj.冲动的，刺激的；有推动力的

参考例句：

• She is impulsive in her actions.她的行为常出于冲动。
• He was neither an impulsive nor an emotional man,but a very honest and sincere one.他不是个一冲动就鲁莽行事的人，也不多愁善感.他为人十分正直、诚恳。

6 equate   

v.同等看待，使相等

参考例句：

• You can't equate passing examination and being intelligent.你不能把考试及格看成是聪明。
• You cannot equate his poems with his plays.你不可以把他的诗歌和他的剧本相提并论。

7 celebrated   

adj.有名的，声誉卓著的

参考例句：

• He was soon one of the most celebrated young painters in England.不久他就成了英格兰最负盛名的年轻画家之一。
• The celebrated violinist was mobbed by the audience.观众团团围住了这位著名的小提琴演奏家。

8 promotion   

n.提升，晋级；促销，宣传

参考例句：

• The teacher conferred with the principal about Dick's promotion.教师与校长商谈了迪克的升级问题。
• The clerk was given a promotion and an increase in salary.那个职员升了级，加了薪。

9 residual   

adj.复播复映追加时间；存留下来的，剩余的

参考例句：

• There are still a few residual problems with the computer program.电脑程序还有一些残留问题。
• The resulting residual chromatism is known as secondary spectrum.所得到的剩余色差叫做二次光谱。

10 frustration   

n.挫折，失败，失效，落空

参考例句：

• He had to fight back tears of frustration.他不得不强忍住失意的泪水。
• He beat his hands on the steering wheel in frustration.他沮丧地用手打了几下方向盘。

11 soften   

v.(使)变柔软；(使)变柔和

参考例句：

• Plastics will soften when exposed to heat.塑料适当加热就可以软化。
• This special cream will help to soften up our skin.这种特殊的护肤霜有助于使皮肤变得柔软。

12 tactic   

n.战略，策略；adj.战术的，有策略的

参考例句：

• Reducing prices is a common sales tactic.降价是常用的销售策略。
• She had often used the tactic of threatening to resign.她惯用以辞职相威胁的手法。

13 gauge   

v.精确计量；估计；n.标准度量；计量器

参考例句：

• Can you gauge what her reaction is likely to be?你能揣测她的反应可能是什么吗？
• It's difficult to gauge one's character.要判断一个人的品格是很困难的。

14 dominant   

adj.支配的，统治的；占优势的；显性的；n.主因，要素，主要的人(或物)；显性基因

参考例句：

• The British were formerly dominant in India.英国人从前统治印度。
• She was a dominant figure in the French film industry.她在法国电影界是个举足轻重的人物。

15 tempting   

a.诱人的, 吸引人的

参考例句：

• It is tempting to idealize the past. 人都爱把过去的日子说得那么美好。
• It was a tempting offer. 这是个诱人的提议。

16 trysts   

n.约会，幽会( tryst的名词复数 )；幽会地点

参考例句：

• He's accused of having drug-fueled trysts with a Denver man. 人们指责他与一名丹佛男子幽会，期间还服用毒品助兴。 来自互联网
• Fools set far trysts. 蠢人定约早。 来自互联网

17 pinpoint   

vt.准确地确定；用针标出…的精确位置

参考例句：

• It is difficult to pinpoint when water problems of the modern age began.很难准确地指出，现代用水的问题是什么时候出现的。
• I could pinpoint his precise location on a map.我能在地图上指明他的准确位置。