我发现，如果你没有仔细聆听生活的细语，困难就会出现，因为生活总会提前低声提醒你。如果你分手礼它的提醒，生活迟早会对你发出警告。此时无论你怎样抵抗都无济于事。但是如果你对此作出正确的回应——不是去纠缠困难出现的原因，而是反思从这次挫折中学以了什么教训，我从这学到了什么？——那么生活就会引领你找到位置，收获成功。

　　My friend Eckhart Tolle, who's written this wonderful book called A New Earth that's all about letting the awareness of who you are stimulate everything that you do, he puts it like this: He says, "Don't react against a bad situation; merge with that situation instead. And the solution will arise from the chalenge. Because surrendering yourself doesn't mean giving up; it means acting with responsibility.

　　我的朋友埃克哈特·托拉写了一本叫做《新世界》的书，这本书非常棒。是关于让意识激励行动的。他在书里这样写道，“不要去反抗困境，要融入其中。那样，解决问题的办法就会随挑战而来。因为暂时的屈服并不意味着放弃，它意味着一种责任感。”

　　Okay, many of you know that, as President Hennessy said, I started this school in Africa. And I founded the school, where I'm trying to give South African girls a shot at a future like yours-- Stanford. And I spent five years making sure that school would be as beautiful as the students. I wanted every girl to feel her worth reflected in her surroundings. So I checked every blueprint, I picked every pillow. I was looking at the grout in between the bricks. I knew every thread count of the sheets. I chose every girl from the villages, from nine provinces. And yet, last fall, I was faced with a crisis I had never anticipated. I was told that one of the dorm matrons was supected of sexual abuse.

　　你们当中很多人都知道，正如汉尼斯校长所说，我在非洲创办了一所学样。我希望给南非的女孩们一个像你们一样的未来。我花了5年时间来确保学样会像学生们一样美丽。我想让每一个女孩感觉到自身的价值，这在她周围的每件事物上都可以映射出来。所以我检查了每一张设计图，亲自挑选每一个枕头，甚至检查砖块间的水泥。我了解每一个细节。每一个学生都是我从9个省的飘落里亲自选出来的。然而，去年秋天我遇到了一个我从未预料到的危机。我被告知有一名宿舍管理员涉嫌性虐待。