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Anchor: Today's reaching for more focuses on the love shared by older women and younger men. Some of Hollywood's top leading ladies are paving the way when it comes to these unconventional relationships. But older women everywhere are following suit, like Lynn Snowden Picket, who is 13 years older than her husband Bronson, and they're here along with Peggy Northrop, the editor-in-chief of More magazine, good morning to you all.
Bronson: Good morning. (Morning.)
Anchor: You guys, first of all, I think you guys are so great together. When I first met you, I thought: Oh, look, they look like they fit. You fit well together. Yeah! Now is that true that you met, met at a black- tie, (yes) event of New York city?
Lynn: Well, love at first sight. I didn't know very much about him at all.
Anchor: But you did think: Oh, gosh, I hope he's at least thirty.
Lynn: Yeah, yeah, I did. Well, I'd just been with a guy who was 24, and, that lasted about a year and we had broken up, then I thought, well...
Anchor: Wait a minute, you had dated an older man who's twenty.., I mean a younger man who's 24? (yeah) Really? OK!
Lynn: uh-huh! And it turned out Bronson was 6 months younger than the guy I just broke up with. So, uh, it was, you know...
Anchor: I see what happened to you.
Lynn: Yeah! Well, really, I was going for people who were more in sync with what I like to do. You know, I don't want a guy who's in a rut, who's going to look at my CD collection and go: Wow, you like this band, woo,(Right.) You're so a little crazy. You know, I just want somebody who is active, athletic, who wanted to go out, who had fun, who was interesting, and..
Anchor: And Bronson, what was your first reaction when you saw Lynn?
Bronson: Wow. Basically Well,May while I was sitting at a table, at this black- tie, unfortunately because at that moment I was in a tuxedo, look to girls terribly good. And my head was just like this on the table, so / my eyes were cast down, lower just little bit, and I just saw these legs coming toward the table. And I looked up the legs, kept going, and they went up to this.
Lynn: I'm so glad I wore a dress like that. (yes) It wasn't a long black tie thing as it was.
Bronson: So, yeah, it was definitely love at the first sight for both of us, it's still a small world, we are going to admit it later.
Anchor: Now, now, Peggy, what's going on here? Because of course, I think the couple that we talked a lot about, Demy Moor and Ashton Kutcher, other, there's also Goldie Hawn. You guys, you have a whole list of More magazine this month, why is it becoming more acceptive for an older woman to be with a younger man?
Peggy: I think that, really women are catching up to men. I admit, now we have all of this economic independence. There's, like, a kind of confidence that comes when you're in your forties and in your fifties, and men find that incredibly attractive. I know a lot of women who say: I'm not seeking a relationship like this. I'm not like I'm on the prowl of younger guys, but younger guys are, all of a sudden, interested in me, and you know, they, because these women feel so good about where they are, and they have economic independence, they can make these choices. And also we're no longer tied as much to fertility issues. So the issue of, you know, are you young enough to have kids with this guy is less of a, of a fraud issue, I think.
Anchor: Uh, are you guys, you've been married for five years, right? And would you like to have children? (Right.)
Lynn: Yes.
Bronson: We're actually looking to adopt right now until....
Anchor: Looking to adopt.
Lynn: Yes!
Anchor: OK. She mentioned, Peggy mentioned the confidence level. Was that big for you, Bronson, the fact that here with Lynn, and she was already established in her career and really was it looking for a man to, sort of make her complete?
Bronson: Yeah. Actually yeah, confidence makes all the difference in the world, and I would imagine that till they respect the life of sex, but it is true is women get older, they do tend to get more confidence, even more so, I think than men. And It does make an extraordinary difference because a lot of sexiness come out of confidence.
Anchor: You got a lot of flak from other men , / like, (Oh, yes, yes, yes) about this. When they fed up you were seeing a younger guy, what? What is that settled about?
Lynn: Well, they don't like to think that a fancy car and a salary at some boring old jobs is going to impress. You know, they like to think that's what's going to allure in anyone they choose. Interestingly enough, I know they wouldn't consider me as a dating material, because I'm too old. So, but they don't wanna hear that someone they don't wanna date is dating someone who's younger, because that sort of means: Oh my gosh! she mean looks count. And you know, it's just not the norm.
Anchor: Are there potential pitfalls in a pairing like this though?
Peggy: Well, I think that there are pitfalls in any relationships. (that's true) look at that divorce rate. So, you know, the fact that, and in fact, it's women over 40 who are driving the divorce rate, that's the only place where the divorce rating is going up. I think the pitfall as always, you know, are the couple going to be in sync, and I think anybody can experience that. And what I hear from our readers is that women in their forties are with men who're about their age, and they're really on this trajectory of you know feeling ever more confident and more adventurous, and the guys become more and more in that rut you're talking about. Somebody said to me once that, you know, find a guy a rut, he'll lie down in it, (yeah) so, I mean, I would say, It wasn't me who said it. (it's true) but I would say that is, that's the pitfall for any relationship. The guy's gonna keep up.
Anchor: OK. Wait. I hav...Before I go, I have to say that's one question, because every older woman out there is thinking: The sex must be great. So, I mean, I have to, as a journalist, I have to ask, I mean, is, is, can you in a nice way, in this morning television, tell me..., you know.
Lynn: In a nice way, yes. How's that? But I think chemistry is what makes any relationship great, sexual, anything else. And...
Bronson: Actually I was gonna tell you a thing before about being in sync, one of the great things is about a couple that is in sync is that, despite the age disparity, when you all are so in touch with one another, the disparity just disappears. (Yeah.)
Lynn: Yeah, that's true.
Bronson: Like the disparity was never there before.
Lynn: You know what?
Anchor: Yeah, well. I said it before, I really do feel you guys, you look like you fit. That so does.
Bronson: Oh, that's nice. We look so good for the pictures.
Anchor: Yeah. Lynn and Bronson Picket, thanks a lot you guys for sharing this story. Peggy, good to see you as always. I appreciate it. To read more about today's topic, log on to the early show website at cbsnews.com.
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