I have four daughters under the age of 10. We live on a quiet suburban cul-de-sac, which we value as a safe place to raise our family. Last year, a new family moved in and we've become friends with the entire family. My children love to play at their house.

The problem is, last week the "Smiths" announced they are putting in a swimming pool. I'm now terrified for the safety of my two youngest children. When I asked what measures they are taking to protect the neighborhood children, Mrs. Smith made it clear that adding locks to their gate and buying a pool cover would be adequate. She made it clear that my children's safety is my responsibility.

Now I feel like I have to lock my kids in our house. What should I do? － Tossing and Turning in UtahDear Utah:

To some extent, your neighbor is right－you are ultimately responsible for your children's safety, and you must be vigilant. We strongly urge you to teach your children to swim. You also should tell them not to go near the pool unless they are supervised by an adult. The Red Cross offers swimming lessons, CPR courses and safety tips. Find your local chapter in your phone book or through redcross.org.