想一个你已经有的自我提高的目标，像是成为一个较好的公共演说家，在工作上获得一个竞升的机会或者是减肥。诚实些：是什么阻止你实现这些，或者是朝着你的目标取得进步？

　　Do excuses like these sound familiar? I’m a naturally shy person — speaking in front of people makes me nervous. I’m not a good writer, so I’ll never get promoted. I’m not an athletic person — losing weight is impossible!

　　这些借口是不是都比较熟悉？ 我本来就是个害羞的人--在别人面前说话就会很紧张。我不是一个好的作家，所以我从来不没有获得晋升。我又不是运动员--减肥是不可能的。

　　1.Get expert help.

　　获得专家的帮助

　　Can’t even run around the block? Find a running coach experienced with beginners and have her create a training plan for you. You’ll be amazed at how far you’re running in just a couple weeks. Hopeless in the kitchen? Take a cooking class, and learn to make two new dishes. With expert guidance, accountability, and social support, you’ll soon have the confidence to step out of your comfort zone. Once you get a taste of accomplishment, you’ll be ready for the next challenge.

　　不能绕着建筑物跑？那就找一个训练新手有经验的跑步教练，和她一起为你制定一个跑步计划。你会这几周跑的惊讶。没有希望走进厨房？那就参加一个厨艺班，学做两道新菜色。有了专家的指导，责任人，社会支持，你会对走出你的舒适区有信心。一旦你尝到了成就感的滋味，你会为了下一次的挑战做好准备。

　　2.Look around you.

　　调查你自己

　　Maybe a friend set out to learn Spanish and became fluent. If you instinctively think, “She’s obviously good with languages,” reframe your thinking. Are you really going to take that accomplishment away from your friend? More likely, she studied hard and practiced often.

　　也许一个朋友打算学习西班牙语，学得流利。如果你本能认为，“她很明显的喜欢这个语言”，那就转换下你的想法。你真的准备让你的朋友远离那种成就。更可能的是，他努力学习，经常在练习。

　　3.Praise for effort, not skill.

　　表扬自己的努力，而非你的技能

　　When you get in the habit of recognizing effort in others, you’ll start to change the way you think about your own abilities. Instead of telling a friend, “You’re such a good cook!” Acknowledging effort over talent is a subtle but important change to make when working to adopt a growth mindset.

　　当你养成了意识到别人努力的习惯，你就会开始改变对自己能力的思考方式。而不是告诉朋友，“你真是一个好的厨师！”认同努力而非才干是很巧妙的，但是当努力去培养一个成长的心态是重要的改变。

　　4.Compete with yourself.

　　和你自己竞争

　　Yes, caring how we rank is human nature, but caring too much is counterproductive and fuels a fixed mindset. We all have our strengths. What’s important is not how you compare to others but how you compare to where you were yesterday, last week, or last year. Are you moving forward and making progress in the areas that you care about? If so, that’s all that matters.

　　当然，在意我们的排名是作为人类的本性，但是在意得太多事不利于生产的，给一颗坚定的心提供能量。我们都有自己的优点。重要的不是你怎样和别人竞争而是怎样和昨天，上周，或是去年的自己竞争。在这一方面你是否你已经在意的前进，取得进步？如果是，那就是这样。

　　5.Learn from failure.

　　从失败中学习

　　When you have a fixed mindset, the voice in your head says, I didn’t make the sale because I’m terrible at closing. Challenge this mindset. What could you have done differently to change the outcome? If you think about it hard enough, you’ll probably come up with lessons to apply to your next sales opportunity.

　　当你有一颗坚定的心时，你心里的声音就会说没有做成是因为我在害怕。那就要挑战这种心态。你做过哪些不同的事情来改变这种结果？如果你认为这很难，你可能会获得一些经验，然后运用到下一次这样的情况中。