初次约会技巧

 

Choose Controversial Over Dull Every Time

 

每次约会的争论气氛胜于沉闷气氛

 

 

Forcing people to discuss interesting but more controversial topics made for more enjoyable first date conversation.

 

We limited the type of discussions that online daters could engage in by eliminating their ability to ask anything that they wanted and giving them a preset list of questions and allowing them to ask only these questions.

 

The questions we chose had nothing to do with the weather and how many brothers and sisters they have, and instead all the questions were interesting and personally revealing (ie.,“how many romantic partners did you have?”, “When was your last breakup?”, “Have you ever broken someone's heart?”, “How do you feel about abortion?”)… Instead of talking about the World Cup or their favorite desserts,they shared their inner most fears or told the story of losing their virginity.

 

Everyone, both sender and replier, was happier withthe interaction…What we learned from this little experiment is that when people are free to choose what type of discussions they want to have, they often gravitate toward an equilibrium that is easy to maintain but one that no onereally enjoys or benefits from.