你不能结交的朋友

 

The Downer

 

扫兴者

 

"The Downer is a person you have to let into your life with care because this trait can be contagious,"Yager says.

 

It goes without saying, of course, that these typesare always down, but ironically, if you're upbeat and positive, that may be the reason the Downer was attracted to you in the first place.

 

It is not your job to be a therapist. But realizethat she may not be able to change without professional help.

 

Decide if she has any redeeming traits and if you can stay upbeat around her.

 

If not, end the friendship. Don't keep her around just because you feel sorry for her