愤怒

 

Whether four or forty,we all get angry at times.

 

不管是4岁还是40岁，有时我们都会生气。

 

But the person who doesn't learn to manage his temper

 

但是，一个不会控制自己脾气的人，

 

marches through life shattering relationships,

 

一生都会损害与他人的关系，

 

hurting friends, losing promotions or worse.

 

伤害朋友的感情，失去晋升的机会甚至更糟。

 

Angry outbursts are a way of expressing feelings,

 

愤怒的爆发是表示情感的一种方式，

 

but they aren't very productive.

 

但这并不是一种有效的方式。

 

Even little children

 

甚至小孩

 

know they don't feel good about themselves when they lose control.

 

都知道，当他们失去控制的时候，他们对自己的感觉也不好。

 

So we need to teach children that they can choose not to have a tantrum,

 

所以我们需要教导孩子们，他们可以选择不发脾气，

 

that they can talk about why they are mad.

 

他们可以把他们为什么狂怒的原因说出来。

 

Similarly,adults can calm themselves down

 

同样，成年人也可以使自己冷静下来，

 

and figure out what they are really upset about.

 

找出自己为什么烦躁。

 

Once you understand why you are angry,

 

一旦你了解了自己生气的原因，

 

you can help yourself master your feelings.

 

你就可以帮助自己控制情绪。