Eradicating these bad habits

 

改掉坏习惯

 

Blaming.

 

责备

 

We need to feel in control of our lives in order tobe happy, which is why blaming is so incompatible with happiness. When youblame other people or circumstances for the bad things that happen to you,you've decided that you have no control over your life, which is terrible foryour mood.

 

为了快乐，我们需要对生活有掌控权，这也就是为什么责备和幸福之间彼此不相容。当你因为坏事发生在自己身上而责备别人或是环境时，就决定了你对生活没有掌控权，这对你的情绪是很糟糕的。

 

Complaining.

 

抱怨

 

Complaining is troubling, as well as the attitudethat precedes it. Complaining is a self-reinforcing behavior. By constantly talking -- and therefore thinking -- about how bad things are, you reaffirmyour negative beliefs.

 

和前面的几种态度一样，抱怨让人烦恼。抱怨是一种自我强化的表现，通过不停地说和想事情有多么的坏，你重申了自己的消极信念。

 

While talking about what bothers you can help youfeel better, there’s a fine line between complaining being therapeutic and itfueling unhappiness. Beyond making you unhappy, complaining drives other peopleaway.

 

谈论困扰你的事情可以让你感觉好一些，这和抱怨被治疗有微妙的区别，后者助长了不快乐。除了让你不开心，抱怨也会让其他人远离你。