You have to take opportunities and make an opportunity fit for you, rather than the other way around. 你得主动抓住机会，创造一个适合自己的机会，而不是一味地拒绝。

The ability to learn is the most important quality a leader can have." 学习能力是一个领导者必须具备的最重要的特质。”

Virginia Rometty, IBM's first female CEO, IBM公司的第一位女性首席执行官金妮·罗梅蒂，

told the audience at the 2011 Fortune Most Powerful Women Summit that early in her career, she was offered a "big job." 对参加2011年《财富》全球最具影响力女性峰会上的观众说，在事业刚起步时，她接到了一份“重要工作”。

She worried that she lacked the proper experience and told the recruiter that she needed to think about it. 她担心自己没有正式工作经验，就告诉招聘人员自己需要考虑考虑。

That night, she discussed the offer with her husband, who pointed out, "Do you think a man would have ever answered that question that way?" 当天晚上，她与丈夫聊起这次工作机会，她丈夫问道：“你觉得一个男人会像你一样回答那个问题吗？”

"What it taught me was you have to be very confident," Ginni said. “这件事教会了我，一个人必须非常自信，”罗梅蒂告诉记者，

"Even though you're so self-critical inside about what it is you may or may not know. “即使你内心对于自己知道什么、不知道什么有着严格的评判标准。

And that, to me, leads to taking risks." 而且，对我来说，这也意味着自己将承担一定的风险。”

I continue to be alarmed not just at how we as women fail to put ourselves forward, but also at how we fail to notice and correct for this gap. 我一直担心的，不仅在于女性不太愿意毛遂自荐，还在于我们没有关注并纠正这种心理上的差距。

And that "we" includes me. “我们”也包括我自己。

A few years ago, I gave a talk on gender issues to a few hundred employees at Facebook. 几年前，我曾对脸谱网几百名员工做过一次关于性别问题的演讲。

After my speech, I took questions for as long as time permitted. 演讲结束后，我在时间允许的情况下尽可能多地回答他们的问题。

Later that afternoon, I came back to my desk, where a young woman was waiting to talk to me. 那天下午，我回到办公室，一位年轻的女员工正等着和我谈话。