Recently I listened to an interview between Denis Waitley, one of the greatest teachers in human achievement and Darren Hardy, publisher of Success Magazine. 最近我收听了《成功杂志》的出版商达伦-哈代对丹尼斯-韦特利的访谈，后者是人类成就学领域最杰出的讲师之一。

If you are not already familiar with Denis Waitley,Denis Waitley has trained all walks of life he has sold more than 10 million audio programmes and has written best sellers. 如果你还不了解哈代问惠特利，他曾为各行各业的人们提供过培训课程，他曾经卖出过1000万张录音节目写过畅销书。

One of the questions Hardy asked Waitley was, “How can people improve their self-esteem?” (其中)哈代问惠特利的一个问题是：“人们如何提升自尊感?”

Waitley first defined the term by saying, “Your self-esteem is the deep-down, inside-the-skin feeling of your own worth, regardless of how you look or where you came from. 惠特利首先对“自尊”做了定义，说“你的自尊是内心深处对于自我价值的感知，它不受制于你的长相或你的出身。

It is the feeling of worthiness—just being glad you are you. It’s the feeling of identity—finding something unique about yourself. 它是对(自我)价值的鉴赏，为自我的存在感到快乐。它是对(自我)身份的鉴赏，发觉自己的独特魅力。

It has the feeling of competency—if I do something and it works out, it gives me the courage to do something more.” 它有着对(自我)能力的鉴赏，即如果我把一件事做得很好，这就使我有了勇气去做更多的事情。”

Continuing, Waitley listed fourteen ways that people can strengthen their self-esteem. 接着，惠特利列举了14种方式，都是帮助人们加强自尊的。

1. Lead with your hand. When you walk into a room always lead with your hand by offering a firm handshake. 1. 从手开始。当你走进一个房间，你要时常先给对方一个坚定的握手。

This gives you a feeling of self-assurance and indicates to others that you are confident in who you are. 这能给你自我肯定的感觉，也给他人展现出你的自信。

2. Make eye contact. Making eye contact indicates you are a caring person capable of holding the glass of another person. 2. 眼神交流。眼神的交流显示了你是一个关切他人的人，能够帮助他人。

3. Offer Your Name First When meeting people, always introduce yourself by saying your name. 3. 先报上名。当你和人会面时，应该时常自报姓名地介绍自己。

4. Smile. A smile indicates there’s a light on in your window and that you are a caring and sharing person inside. 4. 保持微笑。一个微笑就像一窗户上的一道光，表示你是真心关怀和分享的人。

5. Dress your best. Always dress your best—not necessarily in designer clothing—and take pride in how you look. It’s the outside of the package that draws people in. 5. 漂亮穿衣。永远要穿你最漂亮的衣服——不一定是名牌的——为自己的打扮感到自豪。外在的包装也拉近人的距离。

6. Ask engaging questions. When you ask questions you are demonstrating your genuine interest in others. 6. 魅力提问。当你提问时，你是在展示你对他人真正所感兴趣的地方。

7. Sit in front. When you attend meetings, sit up front and be an active participant. 7. 坐在前面。当你参加会议时，要坐在前排，做积极的与会人。

8. Walk with confidence. Walk with a spring in your step—a certain type of charisma and feeling about yourself. 8. 步伐自信。走路步伐要轻快——领导者的一个典型特征，自我鉴赏。

9. Use a positive explanatory style. Listen carefully to how people describe themselves, as that often tells a lot about how people feel about themselves. 9. 积极阐述。认真地听别人阐述自己，这通常也表明他们如何看待他们自己。

Do they say negative things? Do they make excuses? Always explain yourself with a positive explanatory style. 他们会说自己的负面信息吗?他们给自己找托词吗?你要一直用积极的言语阐述你自己。