11. Keep your self-talk positive. We are all our own worse critics. No eyes are as critical as our own. We don’t like pictures and videos of ourselves. 11. 积极自诩。我们都是自己的“恶评员”。没有谁的眼睛比我们自己的更挑剔。我们(往往)不喜欢自己的照片或视频。

There is no voice or set of eyes that has the power to discourage like your own. 没有谁的声音或眼睛更能挫败我们自己了。你要学会去看自己好的一面，而不是糟糕的一面，

Look for the good in you, not the bad, and when you look in the mirror count your blessings, not your blemishes. 当你照镜子的时候，看自己的美，而不是瑕疵。

12. Look at what you do well. When things aren’t going well, look back at the things you have done well. 12. 关注成功。当事情进展不顺利时，回想自己的成功。

When we focus on what’s good about ourselves, we feel good about ourselves. When we focus on our faults, mistakes and weaknesses, we naturally feel poorly about ourselves. 当我们关注自己的优势时，我们会赏识自己的优点。当我们聚焦自己的缺点、错误和弱点时，我们很自然地会自我贬低。

13. Hang around the right people. Our circle of influence is our circle of influencers that have a powerful impact on how we feel about our abilities and ourselves. 13. 结交益友。我们的朋友圈对我们的影响可以延伸到我们如何看待自己的能力和我们本身。

Hang around people with the same goals, rather than the same problems. Play with better golfers and bowlers. 结交与我们志趣相投的朋友，而不是同病相怜的人。和更棒的高尔夫球手、更好的保龄球手一起玩儿。

Spend your time with people who have been more successful in the same fields. 多花时间和那些你的领域中有更多成就的在人一起。

14. Expect good things from yourself. You will not do anything or reach any goal you don’t expect to achieve. 14. 自我期待。你不会做自己不想做的事，也不会达成自己不想要的一个目标。

Our expectations are at the root of all our achievements, and our achievements have a profound impact on how we view and feel about ourselves. 我们的期望是我们成功的根源，而我们的成功会深深地影响我们对自己的看法和认知。

What I found most interesting about this list was that I'd pause at some time and think about how they impact our self-esteem. 我发现这个清单中最有趣的是每次我看它时都会停下来想它们对我们的自尊感产生了什么样的影响。

I then scanned my list and to my surprise almost all of them have indirect impact on how we feel about ourselves. 令我吃惊的是它们都会对我的自我感觉产生影响。

Think about these examples:when you have prepared in advance of a meeting ,how do you feel about yourself? When you are on the verge of intterupting someone,but you resist,were you feeling good? 比如：会议前你做好了准备，你自我感觉会如何？如果你想打断某人但是克制住了，你会不会感到骄傲？

When you helped a friend in need, how do you feel inside? when you tackle the problem you've been putting on do you feel better about yourself? 如果你帮助了需要帮助的朋友，你心里怎么想？你解决一个棘手的问题之后会觉得自己更厉害吗？

Ralph Waldo Emerson who said,“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” 拉尔夫·瓦尔多·爱默生说，“我们的过去和我们的将来如何都很渺小，因为我们内心如何才更关键。”

When you concentrate on positive actions and attitudes, not only will you achieve greater personal and professional success, but you will also enjoy the powerful side effect of an improved self-image. 当你关注积极的事情和心态时，你不仅可以收获个人和职业上的更伟大的成功，你还将享受随之而来的更好的自我评价。