This means everything from cleaning up your mess to specifically avoiding doing or saying things that you know may irritate your spouse. 这意味着从清理你的混乱的内务,特别要避免做或说的事情你知道激怒你的配偶。

13. Understand it takes hard work. Building a marriage of 25 years is not easy. 理解需要努力工作。建立一个25年的婚姻是不容易的。

We have had some very difficult periods.  We have even had to go to marriage counseling to work through difficult periods. 我们有一些非常困难的时期。我们甚至不得不去婚姻咨询工作度过困难时期。

Know there will be challenging times and when they occur, work through them with a genuine desire to improve your marriage. 知道会有艰难时期,当他们发生时,有强烈通过它们的欲望来提高你的婚姻指标。

14.Be Encouraging. 鼓舞对方。

When your spouse is going through a hard period of time, starting a new endeavor, or working on an important project, 当你的配偶正在经历一段艰难的时间,开始一个新的努力,或工作在一个重要的项目,

be there to encourage and support him or her. You should be your spouse’s number one fan. 鼓励和支持他或她。你应该你的配偶的头号粉丝。

15. Always show respect to each other. 总是互相尊重。

This includes the way you communicate to each other, they way you talk about your spouse to others and the way you treat your spouse. 这包括你的沟通方式,他们对待你谈论你的配偶的方式,你对待你的配偶的方式。

16. Make family decisions together. We are a team and we make all family related decisions as a team. 一起为家庭做决定。我们是一个团队,作为一个团队我们让大家一起做决策。

17. Leave your work at work. When you come home from work, resist the temptation to talk about work, unless your spouse wants to hear about it. 离开你的工作。当你下班回家,抵制诱惑,不去谈论工作,除非你的配偶想听到它。

Instead, focus your time together on subjects of interest to everyone. 相反,对于所有人，关注你想关注的兴趣领域。