Xiao Gao and Jing Jing are at Jing Jing’s friend’s party, but Xiao Gao doesn’t know anyone besides Jing Jing

小高和京晶一起参加京晶朋友的派对，但是小高并不认识除京晶以外的其他人

JJ:Okay, Xiao Gao, go work the crowd.

京晶：小高，去和大家聊聊吧！

XG:No way! I don’t know anyone here! I’m way too shy.

小高：我才不去呢！这儿我谁都不认识，我太害羞了。

JJ:How about I give you some mingling tips?

京晶：我教你一些与人交往的小招儿怎么样？

XG:Okay, I could definitely use some help.

小高：好吧，我肯定能用上。

JJ:First, you should turn that frown upside down. You’re not gonna make any new friends unless you start smiling. Next, before you talk to someone, you should visualize in your head how you want the conversation to go. Are you listening?

京晶：首先，你得面带微笑吧，如果你不先微笑你就不能和新朋友聊起来，然后，在你和别人聊天之前，你要在脑子里预想一下对话大致如何进行。你在听么？

XG:Yeah, I’m still listening.

小高：在听呢。

JJ:Good, because that’s my third tip. You have to be a good listener. You can’t do all the talking. A conversation is a two way street. You need to focus and maintain eye contact. Don’t let your concentration drift. You can ask new questions based on what they say to you.

京晶：好的，因为这是我给你的的第三招，你得当个好听众，你不能一个人在那儿没完没了地聊。谈话是双方的交流，你需要保持专注，保持眼神接触。千万不要走神，在别人给你的信息的基础上你可以再问新的问题。

XG:Okay, but I still feel a little nervous.

小高：好吧，但是我还是会觉得有点儿紧张。

JJ:Well, my fourth tip should help you: assume you aren’t the only one who is nervous. Everyone here is a human, just like you and me, and we all have insecurities. But not only that, these people are conversations waiting to happen.

京晶：好，那我的第四招应该能帮上你：设想一下你不是唯一那个紧张的人。在场的都是人，就像你和我一样，我们都有不安全感，而且不仅如此，他们都等着跟你聊天呢。

XG:I think I know what you mean. Any other tips?

小高：我想我明白你的意思了，还有别的吗？

JJ:Yeah, you should ask lots of questions. Not just the boring “where are you from” and “what kinds of food do you like”, you should pretend you’re a reporter on an assignment. You want to uncover the bigger story behind the person. The other person will be happy that you are genuinely interested in them. Now go on, Xiao Gao! Go talk to them!

京晶：有的，你可以多问问题，尽量别问那些千篇一律的什么“你从哪儿来？” “你喜欢吃什么？” 之类的问题。你得假装自己是个在执行任务的记者，你想要知道这个人背后更多的故事，对方都会很高兴你是真正地对他们感兴趣。去吧，小高，和大家聊聊去！

New words for dialog:

Go work the crowd = go talk to people 和人聊天

Mingle = move freely around a place or at a social function, associating with others 混合、交往、人际社交

Turn that frown upside down = smile 微笑

A two way street = a situation where both people have to put in effort 双方的努力

Let your concentration drift = become distracted 走神