福克斯新闻 家长应该如何应对孩子哭闹（在线收听）

Fox on Family. You probably know what it feels like to be really angry. But can we teach our kids to calm themselves down?: "You can't stop that anger on a dime once the hormones dump."

So Doctor, former Marine and father-of-three Andrew Wittman, says the key is awareness and time. When a big emotion is coming, giving the brain and body something else to do can help, like a breathing exercise: "Start with four, hold it for four, exhale for four, making it a game; something different than this thought process of I'm just angry and the emotional reaction."

Word games can work, too; finding letters, or for younger kids eye-spy with colors: "And get them to be able to do it on their own, right, so they can start looking for those colors. Hey. You know what, I calm down when I start finding all these things that are yellow or finding things that are green. Even at three-years-old they can get that."

And if you tend to calm yourself down when you get upset instead of exploding, let them see how you do it. Wittman also says if their behavior crosses a line, stop it right away, every time, so they know what's not acceptable.

With FOX on Family, I'm Lisa Brady.

欢迎收听《福克斯家庭新闻》。你可能知道那种火冒三丈的感觉。问题是，有没有可以让孩子们自己冷静下来的办法呢？“一旦愤怒的荷尔蒙爆发出来，你就无法轻易地将其熄灭。”

身为医生、前海军陆战队员和三个孩子的父亲的安德鲁·惠特曼说，解决这一问题的关键在于意识和时间。很激动的情绪就要爆发时，让大脑和身体做点儿别的事情会有帮助，比如进行呼吸练习：“吸气四秒，憋气四秒，呼气四秒，把它变成游戏的形式；就是做一些别的事情，而不是一直想着我很生气，想着这种情绪反应。”

做做文字游戏也可以；比如找字母，如果孩子还比较小的话也可以让他们分辩颜色：“要让他们学会自己去做这些，没错，这样他们就会开始去找那些颜色。嘿，你知道吗，当我开始去找所有的黄色或绿色的东西时我就会平静下来。即便是3岁的孩子也能用这个办法。”

如果你习惯在你不高兴的时候让自己冷静下来而不是选择爆发，那就让孩子们看看你是怎么做的。惠特曼还说，如果孩子的行为越了界，就要立刻阻止他们，每次都要，要让他们知道什么事情是不可以做的。

感谢您收听《福克斯家庭新闻》，我是丽萨·布莱迪。