英语名篇诵读 永远宽恕（在线收听）

Forgive for Good

永远宽恕

When someone has deeply hurt you, it can be extremely difficult to let go of your anger. But forgiveness is possible — and it can be surprisingly helpful to your physical and mental health. Indeed, research has shown that people who forgive report more energy, better appetite and better sleep patterns. People who forgive show less anger and more hopefulness. So it can help save on the wear and tear on our system and allow people to feel more energetic.

So when someone has hurt you, calm yourself first. Take a couple of breaths and think of something that gives you pleasure: a beautiful scene in nature, someone you love. Don't wait for an apology. Many times the person who hurt you may never think of apologizing. They may have wanted to hurt you or they just don't see things the same way. So if you wait for people to apologize, you could be waiting a very long time. Keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean accepting the action of the person who upset you. Mentally going over your hurt gives power to the person who brought you pain. Instead, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness around you. Finally, try to see things from the other person's perspective . You may realize that he or she was acting out of ignorance , fear — even love.

当某人深深地伤害了你，要消除愤怒会是极其困难的。但是宽恕是可能的——而且对你的身心健康大有益处。事实上，研究表明，能宽恕的人精力充沛，食欲更旺盛，睡眠更佳。能宽恕的人较少生气，有更大的成功希望。故而，宽恕有助于节省我们身体的损耗，使我们感到精力更加旺盛。

因此，当某人伤害了你时，首先使自己镇静下来。做几次深呼吸，想想给你带来快乐的东西：大自然中的一幅美景，某个你爱的人。不要等着他人道歉。许多时候，伤害你的人可能从没想过道歉。他们可能本来就想要伤害你，也可能他们只是看事物的方式不同。所以如果你想等着别人道歉，那只会遥遥无期。记住，宽恕不一定意味着接受使你苦恼之人的所作所为。头脑中回想所遭受的伤害使自己受的伤害更大。相反，要学会在身边寻找爱、美和善良。最后，尽量从他人的角度看待事物。你会意识到，他或她的行为是出于无知、恐惧——甚至是爱。