大千世界:如何跟怀恨在心的"朋友"打交道（在线收听）

Dear Annie: I am a 24-year-old female and have been friends with "Danielle" for 12 years. In fact, she is the only friend I have. Recently, I expressed some personal frustrations to her about my brother-in-law's lifestyle. Last weekend, he came to visit and was obviously angry with me, but refused to say why. My brother-in-law and Danielle converse often, and I am fairly certain she told him what I said. This isn't the first time Danielle has done spiteful things to me. I have even called some things to her attention, and she apologizes, but nothing changes. In the past, I have overlooked Danielle's underhanded behavior in order to save our friendship. I want to confront her about this latest incident, but don't know how to do it without hurting her emotionally. — Confidences Betrayed in N.C. Dear N.C.: If this latest incident turns out to be Danielle's fault and you confront her, at best she will follow custom and apologize but change nothing. This is a toxic friendship, where you think it's necessary to appease her every time she hurts you. Apologize to your brother-in-law for whatever you may have done that upset him, and be cordial—nothing more—to Danielle. You need to branch out and find more trustworthy friends.
Converse: 【书】交谈,谈话[(+with/on/about)]
We conversed for hours on the phone.
我们在电话里谈了几小时。

Spiteful: 怀恨的;恶意的
It was very spiteful of her to do that.
她做那种事太恶毒了。

Overlook
1. 眺望;俯瞰
The house on the hill overlooks the valley.
小山上的房子俯瞰着山谷。
2. 看漏;忽略[+v-ing]
My calculation was wrong because I overlooked one tiny point.
由于我忽略了一个细微之处,我的计算错了。
3. 宽恕,宽容
He has been kind enough to overlook my fault.
他很宽容,原谅了我的错。
4. 【罕】细看;检查
He overlooked the contract before he signed it.
他在签字之前仔细阅读了合同。
5. 照管;监督;监视
She did not know that she was being overlooked by the woman next door.
她不知道隔壁邻居的女人一直在监视她。
6. 高耸于...之上
The monument overlooks the square.
纪念碑高耸在广场之上。

Underhanded
1. 秘密的;可耻的;狡诈的
He played an underhanded trick on me.
他跟我耍了一个卑劣的花招。
2. 人手不足的
The store is underhanded in the Christmas season.
该商店在圣诞节期间缺少人手。

Confront
1. 迎面遇到;面临;遭遇
The soldiers were confronted by two terrorists as they left their camp.
士兵们离开营房时,迎面遇到两个恐怖分子。
2. 勇敢地面对;正视;对抗
confront danger
勇敢地面对危险
3. 使面对;使遭遇;使对质[(+with)]
confront a prisoner with a witness
使囚犯与证人对质

Appease
1. 平息;缓和;抚慰
Nothing could appease the crying child.
什么都无法使孩子不哭。
2. 绥靖,姑息;对...让步
It was a blunder for them to try to appease the aggressor.
他们想姑息侵略者,那是一个大错。
3. 满足
Can you appease the boy's curiosity?
你能满足这个男孩的好奇心吗?

Cordial: 热忱的,友好的;衷心的;真挚的
a cordial reception
热忱招待
a cordial welcome
热忱欢迎
The hostess gave us a cordial greeting.
女主人热忱地欢迎我们。