访谈录 2009-06-29&07-02 如何跟问题男/女接触（在线收听）

Who doesn’t have a difficult colleague friend or family member?

My sister was that at one time I mean she was crazy.

It’s very difficult to put up with them.

The bad news oftentimes you are forced to interact with these people on a daily basis and they could have a personality disorder but the good news is there are simple ways you can learn to deal with their behaviors.

A person with a paranoid personality someone who is very much preoccupied with the loyalty of other people. It is a person who constantly scans the environment and other people looking for possible indications or signs of some sort of deception.

The solution doctor Twardon suggests: stick to conversation topics that are safe and not too personal, avoid any signs of criticisms or attack and refrain from using language that is patronizing or condescending.

A narcissistic person really believes that she is better than you essentially and that because I’m another person I’m better than you. I’m entitled to expect you to do things for me. I’m entitled to be focused exclusively on my own needs and kind of disregard yours.

So how do you deal with those ego maniacs? Don’t be defensive with this person. It could trigger a fight and try to make yourself an important part of his or her world in order to keep up the relationship.

That is essentially a person who is dealing with a lot of internal, call it security or internal anxiety and internal conflicts and the way of resolving internal conflicts is by organizing the external environment.

Doctor Twardon is talking about obsessive compulsive disorder which can make others jumpy. Try acknowledging their hard work with compliments. Compromise with them when possible and also avoid conflict. And doctor Twardon reminds us we all have a little bit of these personalities in ourselves so treat others as you would like to be treated.