访谈录 2008-12-29&12-31 送什么给女友？

Choosing the perfect present for your loved ones can be stressful especially for that special someone. What do women really think of the gifts they receive this time of the year? What is she really going to think? What's going though her head. Joining us today to talk about how she interprets your gifts, is the editor-in-chief of Askmen.com James Bassil.

James, thanks so much for joining us. This is pertinent¹ information because I think all of us men have been in a situation when we've given a gift, we've got that strange look, like, maybe she doesn't like it。

Strange look generally isn’t a good look.

Right, you know, it's very familiar territory and we’ll delve² into that in a moment. But first the website, because really this is one of those websites where if you are a man, and you've got any question about being a man, basically you can go there, right?

Yes, we have the answers to all questions that guys have.

All questions men put.

We have run seven million readers a month. (Yeah). And we deal with advice in every area that could be of interest to you guys. So…

And who is giving out the advice, man or woman?

Er, as for the most parts, man. Most of our writers and editors are men, but when it comes to the dating stuff, we’d like to get the woman’ s point of view in there too, because they know what they want. Right?

It's important, right, so if you've got a question, you’re afraid to ask your wife or girlfriend, go to the website. You'll get some advice.

And do it anonymously³.Exactly.

Well we mention this whole thing about interpreting gifts, what's that all about?

Well, if you think about (that) you give your girlfriend two gifts a year that she knows she's gonna get, (right), so you can bet that she is thinking about and then anticipating (that) there is some buildup to it, so once she has received it, you wanna make sure that you deliver that, you meet the expectations that she generated.

Got you, very good. OK, let's run the gamut⁴ of possible gifts for Christmas (OK). Just we've covered all the basis. The logical gift, of course, the one women seem to like the most is bling, jewelry⁵. Is that a safe bet?

Yes, it can be a safe bet, and in an established relationship it can be a very safe bet, and I specify⁶ "established" because if you do it too early in a relationship that’s gonna send a message that you might not wanna give,(Yes) or she might not wanna get. (OK) It symbolizes⁷ commitment and it's a serious gift, jewelry. So if you do it a little too early it might create some miscommunication.

What if it’s just subtle jewel? It doesn't have to be diamond ring, maybe something, you know, a gold or a little more low-key.

Yeah, I think you wanna be generally subtle and a little discreet⁸ about it. Don't just depend on the flash value of it (Right). But most importantly, tailor for her. Make sure, say, that's in keeping with her tastes. Look at the other jewelries that she owns and her clothes that really put that kind of thought into it.

So if you’ve been going out for a couple of months, don't rush out to the jewelry store.

Get back from the jewelry store.

You are gonna scare her off. (Exactly.)

Alright, perfume, another logical gift.

1 pertinent   

adj.恰当的；贴切的；中肯的；有关的；相干的

参考例句：

• The expert made some pertinent comments on the scheme.那专家对规划提出了一些中肯的意见。
• These should guide him to pertinent questions for further study.这些将有助于他进一步研究有关问题。

2 delve   

v.深入探究，钻研

参考例句：

• We should not delve too deeply into this painful matter.我们不应该过分深究这件痛苦的事。
• We need to delve more deeply into these questions.这些是我们想进一步了解的。

3 anonymously   

ad.用匿名的方式

参考例句：

• The manuscripts were submitted anonymously. 原稿是匿名送交的。
• Methods A self-administered questionnaire was used to survey 536 teachers anonymously. 方法采用自编“中小学教师职业压力问卷”对536名中小学教师进行无记名调查。

4 gamut   

n.全音阶，(一领域的)全部知识

参考例句：

• The exhibition runs the whole gamut of artistic styles.这次展览包括了所有艺术风格的作品。
• This poem runs the gamut of emotions from despair to joy.这首诗展现了从绝望到喜悦的感情历程。

5 jewelry   

n.（jewllery）（总称）珠宝

参考例句：

• The burglars walked off with all my jewelry.夜盗偷走了我的全部珠宝。
• Jewelry and lace are mostly feminine belongings.珠宝和花边多数是女性用品。

6 specify   

vt.指定，详细说明

参考例句：

• We should specify a time and a place for the meeting.我们应指定会议的时间和地点。
• Please specify what you will do.请你详述一下你将做什么。

7 symbolizes   

v.象征，作为…的象征( symbolize的第三人称单数 )

参考例句：

• The use of light and dark symbolizes good and evil. 用光明与黑暗来象征善与恶。
• She likes olive because It'symbolizes peace. 她喜欢橄榄色因为它象征着和平。 来自《简明英汉词典》

8 discreet   

adj.(言行)谨慎的；慎重的；有判断力的

参考例句：

• He is very discreet in giving his opinions.发表意见他十分慎重。
• It wasn't discreet of you to ring me up at the office.你打电话到我办公室真是太鲁莽了。