英语名篇诵读 真正的友谊

True Friendship

真正的友谊

Friendship is a relationship between two or more friends. It involves recognition or familiarity with another's personality. Friends often share likes and dislikes, interests, pursuits , and passion.

How can we recognize potential friendship? Signs include a mutual¹ desire for companionship and perhaps a common bond of some kind. Beyond that, genuine friendship involves a shared sense of caring and concern, a desire to see one another grow and develop, and a hope for each other to succeed in all aspects of life. True friendship involves action: doing something for someone else while expecting nothing in return; sharing thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment² or negative criticism.

True friendship involves relationship. Those mutual attributes we mentioned above become the foundation in which recognition transpires³ into relationship. Many people say, “Oh, he's a good friend of mine.” yet they never spend time with that “good friend”. Friendship takes time: time to get to know each other, time to build shared memories, time to invest in each other's growth.

Trust is essential to true friendship. We all need someone with whom we can share our lives, thoughts, feelings, and frustrations⁴. We need to be able to share our deepest secrets with someone, without worrying that those secrets will end up on the Internet the next day! Failing to be trustworthy with those intimate secrets can destroy a friendship in a hurry. Faithfulness and loyalty⁵ are keys to true friendship. Without them, we often feel betrayed, left out, and lonely. In true friendship, there is no backbiting⁶ , no negative thoughts, no turning away.

Real friends encourage one another and forgive one another where there has been an offense⁷ . Genuine friendship supports during times of struggle. Friends are dependable. In true friendship, unconditional⁸ love develops. We love our friends no matter what happens and we always want the best for our friends.

友谊是两个或更多朋友之间的关系。它在于认可或熟悉双方的个性。朋友之间常常有

共同的好恶、兴趣、追求和情感。

我们怎样才能识别出潜在的友谊呢？其迹象包括友好交往的共同愿望，或者某种共同的纽带。此外，真正的友谊还涉及双方都有关心关爱的意识，渴望看到对方成长、发展，希望彼此在人生的各个方面获得成功。真正的友谊在于行动，为他人做事而不求回报，分享思想感情，而无招来评头论足、负面批评之虞。

真正的友谊涉及相互关系，我们上文提到的那些共同特征成为人们从认识到逐步建立起关系的基础。许多人说：“噢，他是我的一个好朋友。”而他们从不花时间同那个“好朋友”相处。友谊需要时间，彼此了解对方的时间，彼此交往积累起共享回忆的时间，为彼此成长投资的时间。

信任对于真正的友谊至关重要。我们都需要有人能够倾诉我们的生活、思考、感情和挫折。我们需要有人能够托付内心最深处的秘密，而不用担心那些秘密第二天会晒在互联网上！不能严守那些秘密，会把友谊顷刻间毁掉。忠实和忠诚，是建立真正友谊的关键。

无此，我们会常常感到遭到背叛、抛弃，感到孤独。在真正的友谊中，没有背后的中伤，没有负面的想法，没有失信背弃。

真正的友谊相互鼓励，冒犯时能够相互原谅。真正的友谊在奋斗打拼中相互支持。朋友是可靠的。在真正的友谊中，无条件的爱应运而生。不论发生什么，我们都爱我们的朋友，并且总是希望他们如愿以偿，飞黄腾达。

1 mutual   

adj.相互的，彼此的；共同的，共有的

参考例句：

• We must pull together for mutual interest.我们必须为相互的利益而通力合作。
• Mutual interests tied us together.相互的利害关系把我们联系在一起。

2 judgment   

n.审判；判断力，识别力，看法，意见

参考例句：

• The chairman flatters himself on his judgment of people.主席自认为他审视人比别人高明。
• He's a man of excellent judgment.他眼力过人。

3 transpires   

（事实，秘密等）被人知道( transpire的第三人称单数 )； 泄露； 显露； 发生

参考例句：

• Let's wait and see what transpires. 我们等着瞧会发生什么事吧。
• This new machine sometimes transpires a lot of hot vapor. 这部机器有时排出大量的热气。

4 frustrations   

挫折( frustration的名词复数 )； 失败； 挫败； 失意

参考例句：

• The temptation would grow to take out our frustrations on Saigon. 由于我们遭到挫折而要同西贡算帐的引诱力会增加。
• Aspirations will be raised, but so will frustrations. 人们会产生种种憧憬，但是种种挫折也会随之而来。

5 loyalty   

n.忠诚，忠心

参考例句：

• She told him the truth from a sense of loyalty.她告诉他真相是出于忠诚。
• His loyalty to his friends was never in doubt.他对朋友的一片忠心从来没受到怀疑。

6 backbiting   

背后诽谤

参考例句：

• You should refrain your tongue from backbiting. 你不要背后诽谤人。
• Refrain your tongue from backbiting. 不要在背后中伤人家。

7 offense   

n.犯规，违法行为；冒犯，得罪

参考例句：

• I hope you will not take any offense at my words. 对我讲的话请别见怪。
• His words gave great offense to everybody present.他的发言冲犯了在场的所有人。

8 unconditional   

adj.无条件的，无限制的，绝对的

参考例句：

• The victorious army demanded unconditional surrender.胜方要求敌人无条件投降。
• My love for all my children is unconditional.我对自己所有孩子的爱都是无条件的。