《英语流行话题阅读:语境识词3500》Unit63:情商之说

　　Unit 63
The concept of EQ
We have been conditioned to believe that IQ is the best measure of human potential. In the past 10 years, however, researchers have found that this isn't necessarily the case -- that in fact, your emotional intelligence quotient (EQ) might be a greater predictor of success. We learned to feel before we learned to think. The strong physical reactions we have when we feel anger, happiness, love, surprise, disgust and sadness, for example, illustrate¹ the idea that emotions went before intelligence.
IQ is essential for learning and mental development. EQ is a person's ability to understand his or her own emotions and the emotions of others and to act appropriately based on this understanding, and it is more important for happiness and success. We have all known people who did not complete college, but who have become very successful in business. We call them street smart. We also know people who, on the whole, are positive, communicative, pleasant and supportive -- these people enjoy a high level of EQ.
The vast majority of one's ultimate success in society is determined² by non-IQ factors, ranging from social class to luck. Emotional intelligence is one of those factors. The good thing about EQ is that it can always, at any age, be improved, unlike IQ, which remains³ more or less fixed⁴ in adult life. It's important to --
Know one's own emotions. Recognize and name emotions you feel; understand why you feel that way; and distinguish between feeling and actions.
Motivate oneself. When considering how to harness your feelings, practice some emotional self-control and delay gratification. Stanford University researchers tested children's impulse control by placing a banana in front of them and telling them that they would receive a second one if the first remained when the researcher, who needed to leave the room, returned later. The follow-up study found that, overall, the children who delayed gratification and did not eat the banana were more successful later in life -- as measured by a range of factors including happiness, income and job satisfaction  -- than those children who ate the banana immediately.
Recognize emotions in others. The ability to take another person's perspective is a skill that effective managers possess. Emotionally intelligent individuals also are sensitive to other people's feeling and listen well.
Manage emotions. Accept your feelings, but find a balance between over sensitivity or over expression and emotional suppression.
Handle relationships. Applying conflict management skills instead of ignoring conflict, and being considerate and cooperative are part of handling relationships from an emotionally intelligent perspective. Communication skills are essential to healthy relationships.

1 illustrate   

v.举例说明，阐明；图解，加插图

参考例句：

• The company's bank statements illustrate its success.这家公司的银行报表说明了它的成功。
• This diagram will illustrate what I mean.这个图表可说明我的意思。

2 determined   

adj.坚定的；有决心的

参考例句：

• I have determined on going to Tibet after graduation.我已决定毕业后去西藏。
• He determined to view the rooms behind the office.他决定查看一下办公室后面的房间。

3 remains   

n.剩余物，残留物；遗体，遗迹

参考例句：

• He ate the remains of food hungrily.他狼吞虎咽地吃剩余的食物。
• The remains of the meal were fed to the dog.残羹剩饭喂狗了。

4 fixed   

adj.固定的，不变的，准备好的；(计算机)固定的

参考例句：

• Have you two fixed on a date for the wedding yet?你们俩选定婚期了吗？
• Once the aim is fixed,we should not change it arbitrarily.目标一旦确定，我们就不应该随意改变。