英语新闻：专家建议情侣进行婚前“配对测试”

A British family law firm is urging couples to take a "compatibility quiz" before getting married or deciding to live together.

英国一家家庭法律事务所建议情侣们在结婚或决定同居之前先做个“配对测试”。

Bross Bennett's compatibility test（兼容性测试） focuses on key questions about finances, family ties, children and aspirations（愿望） that most couples struggle with and might have to answer anyway if their marriage breaks down and they end up divorcing.

Partner Ruth Bross compared taking the quiz to the kind of considerations and research an employer might make before hiring someone.

"No one who is truly committed to a relationship will ever mind making the full and frank disclosure（披露，揭发） that is asked of them; if they do, you might like to ask yourself why," she said in an emailed statement containing the quiz.

The quiz asks about assets and how each party would like to share them, what kind of relationships they have with their extended family and friends, whether they want children, their religious views, spending habits and career plans:

A copy of the quiz is below:

Finance

Do you know the extent of each other's assets? How do you both view the sharing of these assets? Do you have the same attitude to saving?

Will one of you want to put into a pension what the other wants to put into a new car?

Will you pool your resources or do you want to keep everything separate? Joint¹ accounts or separate? Will you contribute in proportion to your incomes, or equally?

Are you going to have to pay off your partner's debts perhaps from what you thought was going to be the deposit on your house?

Family Ties

What sort of relationship do you have with your extended family? Are they good at staying in touch? Are they local? Affectionate（深情的） ? Over-involved? Have you had any major fallings out?

Children

Do you want children? How many? How do you want to raise your children? What sort of values do you want to pass on?

Religion

What are your religious views -- do you agree on what religion you will bring up the children in? Church/mosque/synagogue（犹太教堂） ? Once a week or once a year? Or no religion at all.

Leisure and fun

Do you like doing the same things in your spare time? Do you share common interests? Is your idea of a holiday lying flat on the beach for two weeks and your partner's rock-climbing?

Lifestyle

What sort of lifestyle are you aiming for? Where do you want to live?

Spending

Do you have an expensive shoe or gadget² habit? Does one of you think of a particular purchase as an essential that the other regards as a "discretionary（任意的） spend"? Do you have any other secret addictions³: handbags, chocolate, football? Do you gamble, online or otherwise?

Work

Are your respective career paths compatible, is either of you going to have to make compromises? Are you prepared to? Will you want to give up work when you have children? What does your partner think about this and can you manage financially? What about part-time working?

Roles - traditional or modern?

Will you expect to live along traditional lines: woman as homemaker and man as breadwinner? Who will organise⁴ the finances? Will household responsibilities be shared equally? Who will assume responsibility for paying bills?

Honesty

Are there any old flames（旧情人） for whom you still hold a candle?

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