三十而立的四大感悟

　　A few weeks ago, I celebrated¹ the big 3-0 and it was quite the fanfare². Complete with hiking, biking, eating my weight in onion rings, a Beyonce concert, and even getting a brand new tattoo³. Leading up to it, so many friends asked me how I was doing with it, presuming turning 30 was a hard thing to deal with. In my mind, I was excited. Birthdays are awesome⁴ and my husband usually plans all my favorite things—what's there to be sad about?

　　几周前，我庆祝了30岁生日，场面相当热闹。我完成了远足、骑自行车、吃洋葱圈、听碧昂斯的音乐会、甚至纹了新纹身。很多朋友为了做好30岁到来的准备，纷纷问我30岁如何，她们觉得转眼30是件难应对的事。在我心里，我对进入30岁而激动不已。生日聚会办的很出色，老公又筹划了我最喜欢的东西——有什么可伤心的呢？

　　But I get it. For some, turing 30 is a milestone⁵ that slows things down a bit. Fewer crazy nights with the girlfriends. Most likely, a mortgage to worry about and a few butts⁶ to wipe besides your own. More gray hairs and wrinkles to be found. Etc. But in all honesty, I am super pumped to be thirty. Here's why...

　　但我懂。对有些人来说，30岁是里程碑阶段，一些东西会慢慢减缓。与闺蜜们一起疯的夜晚会变少。更有可能，还要担心按揭和给别人擦屁股。会长出更多的白发和皱纹。但说实话，我非常喜欢进入30岁。下面就是原因：

　　1. I finally know a little bit about self maintenance. Like, I know how I like my hair—both the color and the style. I know which lipsticks⁷ look good and I have some sense about how to do my eyebrows⁸. If I had a nickel for every minute I spent trying to figure this stuff out in my 20s, I'd be rich!

　　1. 我终于对自我保养有所了解。比我，我知道我很喜欢自己的头发——发色、发型都喜欢。我知道抹哪种口红好看，我也知道如何画眉。如果20多岁我每一次想搞清楚这些问题就能得到五分镍币，那我现在就是富婆啦！

　　2. I'm more grateful for what I have. I've spent a decade working hard to build a life that means something. I've also seen the fragility of life, making me all the more grateful for who I am and what I have.

　　2. 对于拥有的，我更怀感恩之心。整整10年我都努力工作，才终于有了我想要的生活。我也见证过生命中的脆弱，这也使我对我是谁以及我拥有什么更加感激。

　　3. I no longer need approval from others. Seriously. If I want to eat four donuts for breakfast, I will. The peer pressure that somehow lingers after college has finally vanished!

　　3. 我再也不需要得到他人的同意。说真的。如果我早饭想吃四个甜甜圈，我就可以吃。大学后仍然残留的那种压力终于消失了。

　　4. I know my limits. I know when to push harder and when to take a time out. I know how to say "no" and when to speak up for myself. And when things start to get crazy, I know how to manage my anxiety and stress in a way that is healthy for me and my family.

　　4. 我知道我的底线。我知道该何时努把力，何时该出去潇洒。我知道该如何说不，以及何时为自己说话。而当事情开始有点糟糕的时候，我知道如何控制自己的焦虑、压力，而且这种控制方法对我对我的家人而言都是健康的。

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