Unit 34
Public Behavior in France
-- Conversation
Welcome topics of conversation in France are food, art, music, philosophy, sports and current events / history. Studying French history, politics, and other aspects of the culture will be an advantage for you in conversation. And you'll find that conversations often shift into spirited debates. Be prepared to answer questions about your own country, especially regarding political matters and its history. It is extremely bad manners to ask an individual about his political leanings or how he voted. Do not criticize Napoleon, who has a lasting identity with the French spirit.
-- Gift Giving
If you are invited to a French home, consider it a rare honor. Bring flowers, quality chocolates or liqueur to the host, and present your gift before the entertaining proceeds. If you decide to bring flowers, remember that chrysanthemums are for funerals, red roses for lovers. A gift of carnations can often be interpreted as a sign of bad will. Moreover, ensure that the bouquet is in odd numbers, in accordance with the old European tradition. Be aware that displays of warmth and generosity between business associates are not the norm in French business culture. Giving presents is acceptable here, but exercise discretion.
-- Language
It's strongly recommended that you learn basic French phrases and use them whenever possible. Your efforts will be well appreciated and will be remembered. The French will revert to English if they see you floundering. When you speak their language, be gracious if the French correct your mistakes in grammar or pronunciation. Usually, people who make these efforts care about the French language and are only trying to help you speak it effectively.
-- Body Language
Good posture is considered a sign of breeding in this culture. Keep you hands out of your pockets when in public. Chewing gum in public is considered vulgar. Snapping fingers is considered offensive. If you feel the need to point, motion with your whole hand, rather than your index finger.
Expect to be greeted by a handshake; kissing on the cheeks (across genders) is also common amongst colleagues at work. It is not extended to outsiders and you should not attempt it until your female colleagues have made the initial move. Despite the formality of French business culture, people tend to stand close when speaking to each other. Moreover, touching a shoulder or patting an arm is also commonplace and usually within the bounds of French business etiquette.
Smiling is treated only with indifference here. It will not be perceived as a greeting or as an indication of approval.
The US "OK" sign -- forming a circle with the thumb and forefinger -- actually means "zero" or "useless" in France. The French "OK" symbol is the North American "thumbs up --" people use this symbol to express approval. |