What is, is

 

坦然接受现实

 

 

Buddha's famous saying tells us: "It is your resistance to ‘what is’ that causes your suffering." Think about that fora minute.

 

 

It means that our suffering only occurs when we resist how things are. If you can change something, then take action!Change it!

 

 

But if you can't change it, then you have two choices: (1) either accept it and let go of the negativity, or (2)make yourself miserable by obsessing over it.