自信法则-忽略别人对你的期待

How to be confident?

Let go of other people's expectations

  A lot of insecurity stems from holding yourself to a standard that someone else made up. Just like the above point, no one has walked in your shoes and you have not walked in theirs.

What other people expect of you is irrelevant¹. It should never be how you define your worth. You know what you're going through, you know what you've been through, so only you truly can know what it is you are capable of.

Free yourself from other people's expectations. You be the decider of your worth. You be the decider of the expectations.

When you can reclaim² this power, you'll realise that a lot of this unease in yourself has been because you've been trying to prove yourself to someone who can never truly understand you.

1 irrelevant   

adj.不恰当的，无关系的，不相干的

参考例句：

• That is completely irrelevant to the subject under discussion.这跟讨论的主题完全不相关。
• A question about arithmetic is irrelevant in a music lesson.在音乐课上，一个数学的问题是风马牛不相及的。

2 reclaim   

v.要求归还，收回；开垦

参考例句：

• I have tried to reclaim my money without success.我没能把钱取回来。
• You must present this ticket when you reclaim your luggage.当你要取回行李时，必须出示这张票子。