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Dear Annie:

亲爱的安妮：

Daniel, the guy I've been seeing for two years, is a married man. I didn't know it until we'd been seeing each other for eight months. We've been living together ever since. I love him with all my heart, but I'm getting sick and tired of being the "other woman."

我认识丹尼尔这个男人已经两年了，但他是一个有妇之夫。我是在我们交往八个月之后才知道这个的。我们一直生活在一起。我全心全意地爱着他，但现在我厌倦了做一个“第三者”。

Daniel is still supporting his wife, a meth addict¹, because he's worried she will end up on the street. Other than her phone calls and harassment², we are basically happy, but I want more from him. I want to be his wife. I want to have a future with him, but he's not moving toward divorce. He says it's because his wife has property that belongs to him.

丹尼尔仍然支持他的妻子——一个吸毒成瘾者——因为他担心她会倒毙街头。除了他妻子的电话和骚扰令人讨厌之外，我们在一起还是很快乐的，但这些已不能满足我了。我想成为他的妻子。我希望能和他有个未来，但是他却不想离婚。他说，离婚会让他的妻子分走他的财产。

Daniel tells me he'd be lost without me, but I can't deal with much more of this. Any advice? － In Love and Hurting

丹尼尔告诉我，他不能没有我，但我实在不能这样下去了。你能给我一些建议吗？——处于爱和痛中的人

Dear In Love:

亲爱的“爱和痛中的人”：

Daniel should not leave things in limbo³. He needs to talk to a lawyer about a legal separation so he can continue to provide for his wife while working out the details of a divorce. If he is unwilling⁴ to proceed, it means he either values this disputed property more than his relationship with you, or he has no intention of changing his marital⁵ status, in which case, please get out of this mess while you can.

丹尼尔不能对此事无动于衷。他需要找律师咨询一下，他可以继续保障他妻子的生活，然后想一想离婚的细节问题。如果他不愿意这样做，这意味着他重视有争议的财产更甚于重视你们的关系，或者他根本没有打算改变他目前的婚姻状况。在这种情况下，如果可以的话，你要甩掉这个烂摊子。

1 addict   

v.使沉溺；使上瘾；n.沉溺于不良嗜好的人

参考例句：

• He became gambling addict,and lost all his possessions.他习染上了赌博，最终输掉了全部家产。
• He assisted a drug addict to escape from drug but failed firstly.一开始他帮助一个吸毒者戒毒但失败了。

2 harassment   

n.骚扰，扰乱，烦恼，烦乱

参考例句：

• She often got telephone harassment at night these days.这些天她经常在夜晚受到电话骚扰。
• The company prohibits any form of harassment.公司禁止任何形式的骚扰行为。

3 limbo   

n.地狱的边缘；监狱

参考例句：

• His life seemed stuck in limbo and he could not go forward and he could not go back.他的生活好像陷入了不知所措的境地，进退两难。
• I didn't know whether my family was alive or dead.I felt as if I was in limbo.我不知道家人是生是死，感觉自己茫然无措。

4 unwilling   

adj.不情愿的

参考例句：

• The natives were unwilling to be bent by colonial power.土著居民不愿受殖民势力的摆布。
• His tightfisted employer was unwilling to give him a raise.他那吝啬的雇主不肯给他加薪。

5 marital   

adj.婚姻的，夫妻的

参考例句：

• Her son had no marital problems.她的儿子没有婚姻问题。
• I regret getting involved with my daughter's marital problems;all its done is to bring trouble about my ears.我后悔干涉我女儿的婚姻问题, 现在我所做的一切将给我带来无穷的烦恼。