向前一步:第170期 全能女人是个神话(3)

 Mothers who work outside the home are constantly reminded of these challenges. 在外工作的女性总是不得不面对这些挑战。

Tina Fey noted¹ that when she was promoting the movie Date Night with Steve Carell, a father of two and star of his own sitcom², 演员蒂娜·菲曾注意到，当她与已是两个孩子的父亲、男主角史蒂夫·卡雷尔在宣传电影《约会之夜》时，

reporters would grill³ Fey on how she balances her life, but never posed that question to her male costar. 记者会特别关心她如何平衡生活与工作，却从来不会向男主角提这个问题。

As she wrote in Bossypants, "What is the rudest question you can ask a woman? 她在《天后外传》中写道：“对于一个女人来说，最粗鲁的问题是什么？

'How old are you? 'What do you weigh? 是‘你今年多大了’，还是‘你体重多少’？

No, the worst question is 'How do you juggle⁴ it all? 都不是。最烂的问题是：‘你是怎么兼顾所有事情的？’

... People constantly ask me, with an accusatory look in their eyes. 人们总是在问我这个问题，而且目光里还有谴责的意思。

'You're fucking it all up, aren't you? their eyes say." ‘其实你搞得一团糟，不是吗？’他们已经用眼神这样说了。”

Fey nails it. 真是一针见血。

Employed mothers and fathers both struggle with multiple responsibilities, 全职妈妈和全职爸爸都要辛苦地履行很多责任，

but mothers also have to endure the rude questions and accusatory looks that remind us that we're shortchanging both our jobs and our children. 但女性还不得不忍受粗鲁的问题和谴责的目光，被人们提醒自己在工作和孩子身上的投入都在打折扣。

As if we needed reminding. 好像我们需要提醒似的。

Like me, most of the women I know do a great job worrying that we don't measure up. 和我一样，我认识的大多数女性都有一份很好的工作，她们也经常担心自己不称职。

We compare our efforts at work to those of our colleagues, usually men, who typically have far fewer responsibilities at home. 我们会拿自己工作上的努力程度和同事（常常是男性）作对比，而他们所做的家务却比我们要少得多；

Then we compare our efforts at home to those of mothers who dedicate themselves solely⁵ to their families. 然后我们又拿自己在家里的努力程度与那些全职妈妈们作对比。

Outside observers reminding us that we must be struggling—and failing—is just bitter icing on an already soggy cake. 旁观者的议论让我们感觉到自己在挣扎应对的同时还在滑向失败，这简直就是雪上加霜。

 

1 noted   

adj.著名的，知名的

参考例句：

• The local hotel is noted for its good table.当地的那家酒店以餐食精美而著称。
• Jim is noted for arriving late for work.吉姆上班迟到出了名。

2 sitcom   

n.情景喜剧，（广播、电视的）系列幽默剧

参考例句：

• This sitcom is produced in cooperation with Hong Kong TV.这部连续剧是同香港电视台联合制作的。
• I heard that a new sitcom is coming out next season.我听说下一季会推出一个新的情境喜剧。

3 grill   

n.烤架，铁格子，烤肉；v.烧，烤，严加盘问

参考例句：

• Put it under the grill for a minute to brown the top.放在烤架下烤一分钟把上面烤成金黄色。
• I'll grill you some mutton.我来给你烤一些羊肉吃。

4 juggle   

v.变戏法，纂改，欺骗，同时做；n.玩杂耍，纂改，花招

参考例句：

• If you juggle with your accounts,you'll get into trouble.你要是在帐目上做手脚，你可要遇到麻烦了。
• She had to juggle her job and her children.她得同时兼顾工作和孩子。

5 solely   

adv.仅仅，唯一地

参考例句：

• Success should not be measured solely by educational achievement.成功与否不应只用学业成绩来衡量。
• The town depends almost solely on the tourist trade.这座城市几乎完全靠旅游业维持。