豆知识 2011-02-13&02-19 留住爱情

 Hi, I'm Donna Barnes, life andrelationship coach here in New York City and the author of It’s All About You.

To keep romance¹ alive, you have to workat it a little bit, but it shouldn't feel like work. I think the simplest wayto keep romance going is to really keep affection² between you.

If you touch each other as you walk by,maybe like you know, pat³ each other on the tushor rub⁴ the other one’s back, and complimenteach other constantly, it just keeps that attraction going together, and it's areally great way to make each other feel loved, and keep that romance going.And make an effort to really do the same things you did when you first met. Ifthere's a special place that you liked to go to together, make sure you stillkeep going there, or create new memories, find new things to do. I meanpatterns and habits are sometimes what kills a relationship.

So maybe make a plan at least once amonth you find something new to do, and maybe each one of you gets to pick whatit is. And you don't get to complain to the other one. It's like just you’re justgonna explore something new that the other person would like to do.

And have a fun time doing it, have a nocomplaining policy no matter what you do. If you get out together, nocomplaining, no griping about theweep or the kids, it's just about and spending some quality time together andyou'll keep the romance going.

1 romance   

n.恋爱关系，浪漫气氛，爱情小说，传奇

参考例句：

• She wrote a romance about an artist's life in Tokyo.她写了一个关于一位艺术家在东京生活的浪漫故事。
• They tried to rekindle the flames of romance.他们试图重燃爱火。

2 affection   

n.喜爱；爱慕，感情；倾向，意向

参考例句：

• The handsome young man excited affection in a girl.那位英俊的年轻男子引起了一个女孩的爱慕之情。
• He has a deep affection for his old friend.他对老朋友感情很深。

3 pat   

n.轻拍，拍打声；vt.轻拍，拍打；vi.轻跑，轻击；adv.适时，彻底；adj.油腔滑调的，恰好的，合适的

参考例句：

• Could you hear the pat?你能听到轻轻的拍击声吗？
• He gave her a reassuring pat on the shoulder. 他轻拍了一下她的肩膀让她放心。

4 rub   

n.摩擦，困难，障碍，难点，磨损处；vt.擦，搓，摩擦，惹怒；vi.摩擦，擦破

参考例句：

• Don't let the wire rub up against the pipe.别让电线碰到管子上。
• He used to rub up against many famous movie stars.他过去经常偶然碰到许多有名的影星。