豆知识 2011-09-18&09-24 求爱被拒怎么办？

 Hi, I'm Donna Barnes. I'm a life and relationship coach, and owner of NY Dating Coach in New York City. 

In this clip¹ we’ll talk about how to deal with rejection². And the first thing you do is not look at it like rejection. If he's not interested in you or she's not interested in you, then they’re not good enough for you. You want somebody who truly gets you, and appreciates you, and values you. So if they didn't, you don't want them anyway. So it's all about perception³, nobody can reject you if you didn't want them in the first place. So, yeah, maybe you were attracted to them, maybe you thought that they were interesting, but trust me, somebody else will be interesting to you too. And they're only going to be good for you if they're really interested in you as well. So, don't take it personally, move on to the next person who knows what that person has going on with them. You're terrific⁴ and that's all you need to know. It's all about perception and how you choose to look at it. I know it can be a hard pill to swallow if you really like somebody, but trust me, if they don't like you, they’re not good enough for you. You should move on to somebody who does. 

1 clip   

n.夹子，别针，弹夹，片断；vt.夹住，修剪

参考例句：

• May I clip out the report on my performance?我能把报道我的文章剪下来吗？
• She fastened the papers together with a paper clip.她用曲别针把文件别在一起。

2 rejection   

n.拒绝，被拒，抛弃，被弃

参考例句：

• He decided not to approach her for fear of rejection.他因怕遭拒绝决定不再去找她。
• The rejection plunged her into the dark depths of despair.遭到拒绝使她陷入了绝望的深渊。

3 perception   

n.感知，感觉，觉察(力)；认识，观念，看法

参考例句：

• What's your perception of the matter?你对此事有什么看法？
• He was a man of keen perception.他是一个感觉敏锐的人。

4 terrific   

adj.可怕的，极好的，非常的

参考例句：

• The game was terrific.那场比赛棒极了。
• Darren drove at a terrific speed.达伦以惊人的速度驾车。