约会中男人希望女人做的12件事

 　　What do men past a certain age want to see more of on dates? Below, HuffPost Divorce bloggers share what they wish more women would do before, during and after dates.

　　成熟的男人希望在约会中看到什么呢？在约会前、约会中和约会后，男人希望女人做些什么呢？下面，HuffPost Divorce的博主分享了他们的想法。

　　Take it away, guys.

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　　约会中男人希望女人做的12件事

　　1. "If we've never met before, make a definite first move to establish whether we’re doing a handshake or hug. Doesn’t matter which, just help ease that awkward¹ first greeting." -- Barry Gold

　　1. “如果我们从没见过面，你应该主动明确我们是要握手还是拥抱。哪一样都没有关系，这只是为了减轻第一次问好的尴尬。”——巴里?高德

　　2. "Please forgive the first 10 dumb things I say and do (if they are not deal-breakers for you) as I’m a mess. The second date will be better, I promise."  -- Antonio Sacre, author of My Name is Cool: Stories from a Cuban-Irish-American Storyteller

　　2. “请原谅我一开始说的和做的10件蠢事（如果它们没让你对我绝望的话），我经常会把事情搞砸。我保证第二次约会会变好的。”——安东尼奥?萨克，《我的名字很酷——一个古巴-爱尔兰裔美国人讲述的故事》的作者

　　3. "Don't ask why I'm divorced until at least the third date. I know you want to know about past relationships but on the first date I'm not ready." -- Elliott Katz, author of Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants: Timeless Wisdom on Being a Man

　　3. “至少在第三次约会之前都不要问我为什么离婚了。我知道你想了解我过去的感情生活，但在第一次约会时我还没准备好说出来。”——埃利奥特?卡茨，《男人要有责任感女人才有安全感》的作者

　　4. "Let me hold the door open for you." -- Chad Stone, author of The Love Magnet Rules

　　4. “让我为你把门打开。”——查德?斯通，《爱情磁铁法则》的作者

　　5. "If you are a heart surgeon waiting for an urgent text to save someone’s life, by all means, have your phone on the table. Otherwise, please put it away." -- Antonio Sacre

　　5. “如果你是个心脏外科医生，正在等着一条紧急短信去救人性命，那你一定要把手机放在桌子上。否则就请把手机拿开。”——安东尼奥?萨克

　　6. "Offer to pay. I have no problem paying for dinner but please at least give us 'the reach.' Make a move for the check a) so the guy can say, 'Please, let me get this!' and b) it proves you are at least interested enough to invest in the evening." -- Craig Tomashoff

　　6. “主动付钱。晚饭我付账没问题，但请至少给我们一个表现自己的机会。主动去付账，那样的话 a) 男方就有机会说“请让我来付吧！” b) 你至少看起来对这个晚上有足够的兴趣，愿意为此投入。”——克雷格?托马索福

　　7. "Compliment² us.  I work out and one of the reasons I do so -- outside of staying healthy -- is so women can see that I'm a man who takes care of himself." -- Lee Kronert, author of Mental Cruelty: A Novel for Divorced Men

　　7. “赞美我们吧。我健身的原因之一（除了保持健康）是让女性看到我是一个懂得照顾自己的男人。”——李?克隆耐尔，《精神的残暴——一本给离婚男人看的小说》的作者

　　8. "A little encouragement goes a long way. Silence is not golden. 'I’m having fun' is cool." --Ken³ Solin, author of The Boomer Guide to Finding True Love Online

　　8. “一点鼓励就会有持久的效果。沉默不是金。说‘我很开心’就很棒。”——肯?索林，《网上寻找真爱的潮流指南》的作者

　　9. "Disagree with us! Quiz us. Debate us. Really throw down the gauntlet by claiming 'Die Hard' isn’t the greatest movie of all time. Challenging us means you’re interested in how we think and that’s the sexiest experience a guy could ask for." -- Craig Tomashoff

　　9. “有不同的意见尽管说出来！让我们猜谜，和我们辩论吧。向我们发出挑战，尽管说《虎胆龙威》不是有史以来最伟大的电影。挑战我们意味着你对我们的思维方式很感兴趣，这就是女人让男人最感兴趣的体验了。”——克雷格?托马索福

　　10. "During the date, a light touch on the hand or arm says a lot about your interest in us. No, we won’t consider it foreplay." -- Ken Solin

　　10. “在约会中，如果你轻轻碰到我们的手或手臂，那就说明你对我们很感兴趣。我们不会把那看作是前戏的。”——肯?索林

　　11. "Don’t talk badly about your ex because if you are going to talk badly about him, then I have no doubt that at some point, you'll be talking badly about me to some other stranger." -- Al DeLuise

　　11. “不要说你前任的坏话，因为如果你说前任坏话，在某种程度上我就会担心你也会在别的陌生人面前说我的坏话。”——艾尔?德路易斯

　　12. "After a date, please pick up the phone when I call. A call means I really like you." -- Chad Stone

　　12. “约会过后，请接起我的来电。我给你打电话说明我真的很喜欢你。”——查德?斯通

1 awkward   

adj.笨拙的，尴尬的，使用不便的，难处理的

参考例句：

• John is so shy and awkward that everyone notices him.约翰如此害羞狼狈，以至于大家都注意到了他。
• I was the only man among the guests and felt rather awkward.作为客人中的唯一男性，我有些窘迫。

2 compliment   

n.[pl.]问候，致意；n./v. 称赞，恭维

参考例句：

• The manager paid her a compliment on her work.经理赞扬了她的工作。
• Your presence is a great compliment.承蒙光临，不胜荣幸。

3 ken   

n.视野，知识领域

参考例句：

• Such things are beyond my ken.我可不懂这些事。
• Abstract words are beyond the ken of children.抽象的言辞超出小孩所理解的范围.