励志美文：毕业后，如何正视自己？

 When you graduate, taking your first steps out of College or University into the big, bad world is, how to put it...a little bit messed up.

毕业的时候，你踏出大学校门，迈出第一步，走进这个艰险的大世界，怎么说呢？有点点无所适从吧。

In the post-graduation transition, it's easy to feel lost and confused.

毕业之后的过渡期，很容易迷失自我、感到迷惘。

So here's how to remain confident and trust yourself, even in the middle of all the uncertainty¹ and change that this brave new world brings.

这里教你如何保持自信、相信自己，哪怕你踟蹰不前、要面临这个日新月异的新世界。

1. Stop feeling like you should have all the answers

1、不要再觉得你应该无所不知

Uncertainty is the way things are, and trying to fight is like trying to fight an angry bear with a wet fish. It’ll just leave you exhausted², scared and broken. So relax a little. Understand that uncertainty is natural, and know that doing your best is plenty good enough as a response.

事情就是不确定的，企图斗争好比和一头怒熊抗衡、争夺鲜鱼。你只会精疲力竭、担惊受怕、身心俱碎。放松一点，明白世事无常乃常态。要知道，尽最大努力这种做法本身就是不错的回应。

2. Prioritise play over success

2、两相权衡，游戏比成功重要

Extrinsic³ success is easy, cheap even. So it's through play—through engaging with the things that make you feel joy or connected and experience more success than fitting in with expectations will ever give you.

外在的成功来得容易、甚至可以说来得廉价。所以说，是通过游戏竞争、去参与你觉得开心和能带动你的事情， 去体验更多的成功，而不是去迎合外界带给你的期冀。

3. Stop comparing

3、停止比较

Today, every time you compare yourself to someone else, you threaten to undermine your self and your efficacy, or inflate⁴ your ego⁵. Comparison is irrelevant⁶. The only thing that's relevant is your ability to approach a decision.

如今，每次你与他人相较，你就有贬低自己、削弱自己效益的风险，甚至有自我膨胀的危险。比较无甚相关，唯一相关的是你做决策的能力。

1 uncertainty   

n.易变，靠不住，不确知，不确定的事物

参考例句：

• Her comments will add to the uncertainty of the situation.她的批评将会使局势更加不稳定。
• After six weeks of uncertainty,the strain was beginning to take its toll.6个星期的忐忑不安后，压力开始产生影响了。

2 exhausted   

adj.极其疲惫的，精疲力尽的

参考例句：

• It was a long haul home and we arrived exhausted.搬运回家的这段路程特别长，到家时我们已筋疲力尽。
• Jenny was exhausted by the hustle of city life.珍妮被城市生活的忙乱弄得筋疲力尽。

3 extrinsic   

adj.外部的；不紧要的

参考例句：

• Nowadays there are more extrinsic pressures to get married.现在来自外部的结婚压力多了。
• The question is extrinsic to our discussion.这个问题和我们的讨论无关。

4 inflate   

vt.使膨胀，使骄傲，抬高（物价）

参考例句：

• The buyers bid against each other and often inflate the prices they pay.买主们竞相投标，往往人为地提高价钱。
• Stuart jumped into the sea and inflated the liferaft.斯图尔特跳到海里给救生艇充气。

5 ego   

n.自我，自己，自尊

参考例句：

• He is absolute ego in all thing.在所有的事情上他都绝对自我。
• She has been on an ego trip since she sang on television.她上电视台唱过歌之后就一直自吹自擂。

6 irrelevant   

adj.不恰当的，无关系的，不相干的

参考例句：

• That is completely irrelevant to the subject under discussion.这跟讨论的主题完全不相关。
• A question about arithmetic is irrelevant in a music lesson.在音乐课上，一个数学的问题是风马牛不相及的。