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Time is running out1 for my friend. While we are sitting at lunch she casually1 mentions she and her husband are thinking of starting a family. “We're taking a survey,”she says, half-joking. “Do you think I should have a baby?”
“It will change your life,” I say, carefully keeping my tone neutral2. “I know,”she says, “no more sleeping in on weekends, no more spontaneous3 holidays”
But that's not what I mean at all. I look at my friend, trying to decide what to tell her. I want her to know what she will never learn in childbirth classes. I want to tell her that the physical wounds of child bearing will heal, but becoming a mother will leave her with an emotional4 wound so raw5 that she will be vulnerable6 forever.
I consider warning her that she will never again read a newspaper without thinking: “What if that had been MY child?” That every plane crash, every house fire will haunt her. That when she sees pictures of starving children, she will wonder if anything could be worse than watching your child die. I look at her carefully manicured7 nails and stylish2 suit and think that no matter how sophisticated8 she is, becoming a mother will reduce her to the primitive9 level of a bear protecting her cub10.
I feel I should warn her that no matter how many years she has invested in her career, she will be professionally derailed11 by motherhood. She might arrange for child care, but one day she will be going into an important business meeting, and she will think her baby's sweet smell. She will have to use every ounce of discipline12 to keep from running home, just to make sure her child is all right.
I want my friend to know that every decision will no longer be routine. That a five-year-old boy's desire to go to the men's room rather than the women's at a restaurant will become a major dilemma3. The issues of independence and gender4 identity will be weighed against the prospect5 that a child molester13 may be lurking14 in the lavatory15. However decisive she may be at the office, she will second-guess16 herself constantly17 as a mother.
Looking at my attractive friend, I want to assure her that eventually18 she will shed the added weight19 of pregnancy20, but she will never feel the same about herself. That her own life, now so important, will be of less value to her once she has a child. She would give it up in a moment to save her offspring21, but will also begin to hope for more years—not to accomplish her own dreams—but to watch her children accomplish theirs.
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1 casually | |
adv.漠不关心地,无动于衷地,不负责任地 | |
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2 stylish | |
adj.流行的,时髦的;漂亮的,气派的 | |
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3 dilemma | |
n.困境,进退两难的局面 | |
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n.(生理上的)性,(名词、代词等的)性 | |
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5 prospect | |
n.前景,前途;景色,视野 | |
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6 belly | |
n.肚子,腹部;(像肚子一样)鼓起的部分,膛 | |
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7 touching | |
adj.动人的,使人感伤的 | |
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8 mere | |
adj.纯粹的;仅仅,只不过 | |
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