告别幼稚！10大信号你已经长大成熟了

 　　Maturity¹ is a state when an individual is in a position to realize what is happening around him/her, to understand the rationale behind those happenings and does not get too elated nor too depressed² by final results. Thus he/she is in a position to absorb pressures and remain unperturbed by the situations around him/her. You can realize you have now matured by looking for following signs:

　　成熟是一种状态，当你突然意识到周围发生的一切，能够理解这些事情背后的缘由，不会因结果得意洋洋抑或一蹶不振，你就成熟了。你已经能够化解压力，不被周围的环境所干扰。看看下面的信号判断一下自己成熟没有吧：

　　1. You listen more and talk less

　　多听少说

　　When we realize as human beings we are built to hear more (because we have two ears) and speak less (we have one mouth/tongue); we gain more information and whatever we speak will be based on substantial reasoning. This will provide a glimpse of a thinking individual/rational person to the audience. Thus you shall be perceived more seriously, and in turn this will add to your confidence. It is the first sign of you becoming a more matured individual than what you were before.

　　当我们意识到作为人，我们需要多听（因为有两个耳朵）少说（只有一张嘴/一根舌头），我们就能获得更多的信息，说出的话也能基于靠谱的推断，这会让听众觉得这个人很有思想和逻辑性。这样你就会被认为是个更靠谱正经的人，同时还能增加自己的自信。这可以当成是你和以前相比变得成熟的第一个标志。

　　2. You do not shy away from responsibilities你不再羞于承担责任

　　As individuals we play a variety of roles in our societal set up. Be it for our family, our community, our friends, our country or for the human race in general. Additionally, we, being the highly successful species on Earth, should also be responsible for other species of this planet, as well as for sustaining the planet for future life forms. When you think in these terms, you behave in a more responsible manner. You not only perform your duties for your family or country, you also take care of mother earth. This makes you a matured individual on this planet.

　　作为个人，我们在社交圈里承担着各式各样的角色，包括家庭、社区，朋友们、国家甚至于人类这个大圈子。除此之外，我们作为地球上的最高级生物，也需要对其他物种负责，为了未来的生命框架保护这个地球的和谐发展。当你这样去思考问题，其实也就变得更加负责任了。你不仅在家庭或国家中承担了你的职责，你还照顾到了我们的地球母亲。这会让你成为更加成熟的人。

　　3. You are less argumentative and more accommodating你不再那么好辩

　　There are times when you think you are right in an argument but by winning an argument you may lose a friend. So, it may be advisable to refrain from arguing too much at these times. Quite often, when things are normal, the other person with whom there was an argument may realize your point of view, or it is also possible you understand his/her perspective better. For, just because someone is not agreeing to you, does not mean he/she is wrong. By arguing less, you are providing the required space and prestige to others, and at the same time you are buying more time for yourself to look at the other’s argument from another angle. And additionally, you command more respect from others. This shows you are now a matured individual.

　　有时你会觉得自己在辩论中是正确的，但如果赢得了辩论可能会失去朋友。所以最聪明的做法莫过于在此刻避免过多的争论。更多时候，如果不是什么大事，那个有自己观点的人也许会了解你的想法，或者你也可能更好的了解ta的立场。所以，别人不赞同你，并不代表ta就是错的。少辩论，也给别人提供了必须的空间和威望，同时你也能给自己争取更多时间来从别的角度审视别人的观点。除此之外，你还能从他人身上获得更多的尊重。这也能表明你变得更加成熟了。

　　4. You enjoy each season

　　你享受每个季节

　　Most of us have a likening for either summer or winter or spring or rains. That’s fine. But there is no need to get irritated whenever your favorite season has been replaced by another one. There is a cycle of seasons and life forms adapt to that. No one can control seasonal³ cycles and no one should control them. So if you are enjoying changes in season, however abrupt⁴ they might seem, you have grown into a matured individual.

　　大部分人都会更喜欢夏天或冬天或春天或雨季。这个没啥，但自己最爱的季节过去了也没必要感到恼火。季节的轮替就是这样，我们生命早已习惯如此。没有人可以控制季节的循环也不能去控制。所以如果你很享受季节的变换，不管变得多么突然，你已经变得更成熟了。

　　5. You wear a smile on your face

　　脸上带着微笑

　　Life is a topsy-turvy event. It doesn’t matter how hard scientists/researchers try to predict it, it remains⁵ unpredictable. You plan for today in the morning, and by the afternoon you have to modify it to accommodate something unplanned. Whatever the situation may be, wearing a smile has a positive impact on your body and mind. So, if you are being found mostly with a smile, you should consider this as a sign of getting matured.

　　生活总是出其不意的。不管科学家/研究员多么努力的想去预言，还是无法确切估计。你早上做了今天的计划，下午有可能就需要为一些未知事件修改计划。不论情况如何，都带着微笑，这样能给身体和精神带来积极的影响。所以，如果你总是带着微笑，也可以看成是成熟的标志。

　　6. You love children and elders

　　你尊老爱幼

　　Most of us like to hangout with friends. Most of these friends are of the same age group. However, if you like to spend time with children and older people, you should consider yourself a mature individual. Quite often, spending time with people who are not in your age bracket helps you visualize⁶ life in an entirely⁷ different manner. These moments, later on, shall be counted in your experiences.

　　大部分人都喜欢和朋友泡在一起。我们大多数的朋友都是同龄人。然而，如果你愿意花时间和小孩老人们在一起，你就成熟了。大部分时候，花时间和不同年龄段的人在一起能帮你更好的以全然不同的方式看待生活。这些时刻，不久之后都会成为你的阅历。

　　7. You save more than what you expend⁸

　　你存的比花的多

　　This one does not need any detail explanation. Saving more than the expenditures⁹ will itself lend credibility to your maturity status.

　　这一条不需要什么具体的解释了。存的比花的多毫无疑问是你成熟的最可靠标志。

　　8. You indulge more in reading

　　你更多的时间花在阅读上

　　To be updated is of utmost priority in today’s knowledge-driven society. And probably one of the best ways to get informed is to read. If you are spending more time reading, this indicates you are serious about your business which is a sign of maturity.

　　在当今这样知识驱动的社会，适应是排在首位的。要想获得更多的信息，最好的方式莫过于阅读。如果你更多的时间花在阅读上，这就意味着你对自己的事情更加上心，也是成熟的标志。

　　9. You take care of yourself as well as others你照顾自己和别人

　　In the run of life, you may give less importance to yourself relative to your family members. However, you must realize you are no less significant. Therefore, you must take out time for yourself, and take care of your body and mind. This will, in turn lead to better performance in your duties which will render you as a responsible and matured person.

　　在生命的长河中，也许你觉得家人会比自己更加重要。然而，你必须意识到你是独一无二的。因此，你必须抽出时间来照顾自己，不仅身体还有思想。这能够反过来促进你更好地履行责任，让你成为有责任心的成年人。

　　10. You seek the signs of maturity

　　你试图寻求成熟的标志

　　You’re reading this article; this action itself shows you are serious about being considered mature. You now seem to shoulder your responsibilities and want to know the meaning of your existence. Therefore, you are looking for things you should know/do in order to become a responsible and mature citizen. This is a sign of you now being a mature individual.

　　你在看这篇文字，这个行为本身就代表你想要变得更加成熟。也许你想要承担责任，想知道自己存在的意义。因此，你在寻求那些要成为有责任成熟公民需要知道/做哪些事。这本身就说明你正在走向成熟。

　　Maturity brings with it responsibility. With responsibility comes sensibility. Sensibility leads to confidence. So move with confidence to show the world you have now matured.

　　成熟带来的是责任。责任带来的是感悟。感悟带来的是自信。所以自信的向这个世界展示你已经成熟了吧。

 

1 maturity   

n.成熟；完成；(支票、债券等)到期

参考例句：

• These plants ought to reach maturity after five years.这些植物五年后就该长成了。
• This is the period at which the body attains maturity.这是身体发育成熟的时期。

2 depressed   

adj.沮丧的，抑郁的，不景气的，萧条的

参考例句：

• When he was depressed,he felt utterly divorced from reality.他心情沮丧时就感到完全脱离了现实。
• His mother was depressed by the sad news.这个坏消息使他的母亲意志消沉。

3 seasonal   

adj.季节的，季节性的

参考例句：

• The town relies on the seasonal tourist industry for jobs.这个城镇依靠季节性旅游业提供就业机会。
• The hors d'oeuvre is seasonal vegetables.餐前小吃是应时蔬菜。

4 abrupt   

adj.突然的，意外的；唐突的，鲁莽的

参考例句：

• The river takes an abrupt bend to the west.这河突然向西转弯。
• His abrupt reply hurt our feelings.他粗鲁的回答伤了我们的感情。

5 remains   

n.剩余物，残留物；遗体，遗迹

参考例句：

• He ate the remains of food hungrily.他狼吞虎咽地吃剩余的食物。
• The remains of the meal were fed to the dog.残羹剩饭喂狗了。

6 visualize   

vt.使看得见，使具体化，想象，设想

参考例句：

• I remember meeting the man before but I can't visualize him.我记得以前见过那个人，但他的样子我想不起来了。
• She couldn't visualize flying through space.她无法想像在太空中飞行的景象。

7 entirely   

ad.全部地，完整地；完全地，彻底地

参考例句：

• The fire was entirely caused by their neglect of duty. 那场火灾完全是由于他们失职而引起的。
• His life was entirely given up to the educational work. 他的一生统统献给了教育工作。

8 expend   

vt.花费，消费，消耗

参考例句：

• Don't expend all your time on such a useless job.不要把时间消耗在这种无用的工作上。
• They expend all their strength in trying to climb out.他们费尽全力想爬出来。

9 expenditures   

n.花费( expenditure的名词复数 )；使用；（尤指金钱的）支出额；（精力、时间、材料等的）耗费

参考例句：

• We have overspent.We'll have to let up our expenditures next month. 我们已经超支了，下个月一定得节约开支。 来自《简明英汉词典》
• The pension includes an allowance of fifty pounds for traffic expenditures. 年金中包括50镑交通费补贴。 来自《简明英汉词典》