【英语时差8,16】不满得负担全部家计

Dear Annie:

I've been married to "Clem" for two years. I have a full-time¹ job and a part-time job, plus I do all the household chores. Many nights I only get four or five hours of sleep.

Clem works part time and is home a lot. He expects me to pay the bills and also to pay for the groceries. When we go out to eat or to see a movie, I usually pay for that, too.

I don't feel this is fair, but whenever I mention it, Clem goes into a rant² about how he has to do everything and maybe I should just find another place to live. I can't leave. Am I wrong to feel like all I am is a cash cow and a maid? － Moo Laa in Iowa

Dear Iowa:

Even though Clem contributes little, he still controls your money and then uses anger and threats to make you behave the way he wants. Is there a reason Clem doesn't have a full-time job? Is he incapable³ of doing household chores to lighten your load?

You don't mention love and apparently⁴ there are no children, so if Clem is simply unmotivated and emotionally abusive, why do you want to stay in this relationship? Get counseling, with or without him, and figure out your next step.

1 full-time   

adj.满工作日的或工作周的，全时间的

参考例句：

• A full-time job may be too much for her.全天工作她恐怕吃不消。
• I don't know how she copes with looking after her family and doing a full-time job.既要照顾家庭又要全天工作，我不知道她是如何对付的。

2 rant   

v.咆哮；怒吼；n.大话；粗野的话

参考例句：

• You can rant and rave at the fine,but you'll still have to pay it.你闹也好，骂也好，罚金还是得交。
• If we rant on the net,the world is our audience.如果我们在网络上大声嚷嚷，全世界都是我们的听众。

3 incapable   

adj.无能力的，不能做某事的

参考例句：

• He would be incapable of committing such a cruel deed.他不会做出这么残忍的事。
• Computers are incapable of creative thought.计算机不会创造性地思维。

4 apparently   

adv.显然地；表面上，似乎

参考例句：

• An apparently blind alley leads suddenly into an open space.山穷水尽，豁然开朗。
• He was apparently much surprised at the news.他对那个消息显然感到十分惊异。