英语听力—环球英语 558 Five Love Languages: Kind Words

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Welcome to Spotlight¹. I'm Adam Navis.
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And I'm Marina Santee. Spotlight uses a special English method of broadcasting. It is easier for people to understand, no matter where in the world they live.
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Keith* and Allison* are married. Keith works² in an office. And Allison is trying to be a writer. For years, Keith rarely³ thought about Allison's writing. He never asked her about it. And he never read anything that she wrote. This made Allison feel sad. In fact, she stopped writing.
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Years later Allison decided⁴ to try writing again. But, she did not feel like her writing was very good. One day she asked Keith to read something of hers. Keith read it. He loved it! And he told Allison how proud he was of her. He told her that she should try to sell her writing to a magazine.
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Fourteen years later, Allison writes for a living. She even wrote her own book that many people have read. Just a few kind words from her husband encouraged her. Keith finally spoke⁵ Allison's love language.
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According⁶ to Dr⁷. Gary Chapman, people speak different love languages. For many years, Dr. Chapman has studied how people communicate love to each other. And he has found that all people do not feel and receive love in the same way. He believes that to really express love to others, you must know their love language. It is important to know how they most feel love.
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In his book, The Five Love Languages, Dr. Chapman identifies five different ways to show love. These are the five [5] love languages, according to Dr. Chapman.
Kind words of affirmation
Quality time
Receiving gifts
Acts of service
Physical touch
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Today's Spotlight starts a series⁸ on the five love languages. Today we will discuss the first love language.
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A long time ago Solomon was the king of Israel. He was a very wise king. Once he said, "The tongue has the power of life and death." That is, the words we say to other people have a lot of power. You can use words to make a person happy. Or, you can use words to make a person feel sad. Solomon even went as far as saying that words can kill! That is why the first love language is so important.
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Words of affirmation are kind words. They come in many different forms. You could give someone a compliment⁹. For example you could say, "You look very beautiful today" or "You did a wonderful job."
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Or, you could encourage someone. Many people lack courage in particular areas of their lives. Encouraging words can give people the courage to try new things. In the story at the beginning, Keith gave his wife Allison encouraging words. Because of his encouraging words, Allison was able to continue her writing.
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Words of affirmation are always said in a kind, loving way. Saying, "I love you" [flat, disinterested] is different than saying, "Yes, I LOVE you!" [enthusiastically] Sometimes it is the way we say words, not just the words themselves!
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And using kind words also means¹⁰ dealing¹¹ with past wrongs. If someone hurt you in the past, forgive them. It is not kind to always talk about someone's past mistakes. An unforgiving heart makes it difficult for two people to communicate well.
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And finally use words that kindly¹² request and do not demand. Love should be a choice. When we ask people to do things for us, it should be their choice to do them. They should not feel pressure to do them. And they should not feel fear either. Making demands of others does not give people much choice.
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In his book Dr. Chapman tells stories of people using words of affirmation. This story is about a wife who speaks kind words to her husband.
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One day Anna* came into Dr. Chapman's office. She was feeling very discouraged¹³. She said, "Dr. Chapman, I have got a problem. I cannot get my husband, Bob, to help me paint our bedroom. I have been asking him and asking him for nine months. I have tried everything I know. And I just cannot get him to paint that room!" Anna continued, "Last Saturday was a good example. It was a good day for him to paint. But he did not!"
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Dr. Chapman had heard this story before. Many married people come to him for help. So, he had a good idea for Anna. He said, "Anna, are you sure that your husband knows that you want him to paint the room?" Anna said yes. Then Dr. Chapman asked, "Anna, does your husband ever do other things for you, like clean or pay the bills?" Anna said yes. Then Dr. Chapman said something strange. He said, "I have two ideas for you Anna. One, do not ever talk about painting the room again. And two, the next time your husband does something helpful, give him a compliment. Use kind words to tell him 'thank you'."
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Anna did not believe that this would help. But, she followed Dr. Chapman's orders. Anna began complimenting¹⁴ her husband Bob. She said things like "Thank you Bob for paying the bills. I hear that some husband do not do that. So, I am really thankful that you do." Or she would say, "Bob, I really appreciate that you washed the car today. It looks great."
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Three weeks later Anna returned to Dr. Chapman's office. She said, "Dr. Chapman, it worked! My husband painted the bedroom and I did not even have to ask him again!"
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Dr. Chapman knew that compliments¹⁵ can make people feel happy. Compliments make people feel wanted and needed. Bob knew that his wife wanted the room painted. But, he did not feel like Anna was thankful for his work. After Anna began to compliment his work, then he wanted to paint the room. It was Bob's choice. He did not feel pressured. He painted the room for her out of love.
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Dr. Chapman understood that Bob feels most respected and loved when Anna speaks kind words to him. Dr. Chapman knew that Bob's main love language is words of affirmation. And now Anna understands that too. Bob and Anna's communication has improved.
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Dr. Chapman warns¹⁶ that people should not use kind words to get what they want. Love is not just about getting your own way. But Dr. Chapman does say that when people receive love through affirming¹⁷ words, then they are more likely to act on that love. That is, they are more likely to return love, just like Bob did when he painted the room for his wife.
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There are many people who need to hear words of affirmation. Do you know anyone who may "speak" this love language? If not, listen to the next program on the five love languages. We will describe the second, quality time.
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The writer of today's program was Rebekah Schipper. The producer was Michio Ozaki. Computer users¹⁸ can find more Spotlight programs on our website at w w w dot radio dot english dot net. This program is called, "Five Love Languages: Kind Words."
*These names have been changed to protect privacy¹⁹.

1 spotlight   

n.公众注意的中心，聚光灯，探照灯，视听，注意，醒目

参考例句：

• This week the spotlight is on the world of fashion.本周引人瞩目的是时装界。
• The spotlight followed her round the stage.聚光灯的光圈随着她在舞台上转。

2 works   

n.作品，著作；工厂，活动部件，机件

参考例句：

• We expect writers to produce more and better works.我们期望作家们写出更多更好的作品。
• The novel is regarded as one of the classic works.这篇小说被公认为是最优秀的作品之一。

3 rarely   

adv.很少，难得；非常地，非凡地

参考例句：

• Such fish is rarely met with in the north country.这种鱼在北方难得看到。
• He rarely comes here anymore.现在他难得来这儿了。

4 decided   

adj.决定了的，坚决的；明显的，明确的

参考例句：

• This gave them a decided advantage over their opponents.这使他们比对手具有明显的优势。
• There is a decided difference between British and Chinese way of greeting.英国人和中国人打招呼的方式有很明显的区别。

5 spoke   

n.（车轮的）辐条；轮辐；破坏某人的计划；阻挠某人的行动 v.讲，谈（speak的过去式）；说；演说；从某种观点来说

参考例句：

• They sourced the spoke nuts from our company.他们的轮辐螺帽是从我们公司获得的。
• The spokes of a wheel are the bars that connect the outer ring to the centre.辐条是轮子上连接外圈与中心的条棒。

6 according   

adj.按照，根据

参考例句：

• According to the Bible we are all the seed of Adam.根据《圣经》所说的，我们都是亚当的后裔。
• We must cut our coat according to our cloth this year.今年我们必须学会量入为出。

7 Dr   

n.医生，大夫；博士(缩)（= Doctor）

参考例句：

• Dr.Williams instructs us in botany.威廉博士教我们植物学。
• The ward of the hospital is in the charge of Dr.Green.医院的这间病房由格林医生负责。

8 series   

n.连续；系列

参考例句：

• The students have put forward a series of questions.学生们提出了一系列问题。
• He gave forth a series of works in rapid succession.他很快连续发表了一系列的作品。

9 compliment   

n.[pl.]问候，致意；n./v. 称赞，恭维

参考例句：

• The manager paid her a compliment on her work.经理赞扬了她的工作。
• Your presence is a great compliment.承蒙光临，不胜荣幸。

10 means   

n.方法，手段，折中点，物质财富

参考例句：

• That man used artful means to find out secrets.那人使用狡猾的手段获取机密。
• We must get it done by some means or other.我们总得想办法把它干完。

11 dealing   

n.经商方法，待人态度

参考例句：

• This store has an excellent reputation for fair dealing.该商店因买卖公道而享有极高的声誉。
• His fair dealing earned our confidence.他的诚实的行为获得我们的信任。

12 kindly   

adj.和蔼的，温和的，爽快的；adv.温和地，亲切地

参考例句：

• Her neighbours spoke of her as kindly and hospitable.她的邻居都说她和蔼可亲、热情好客。
• A shadow passed over the kindly face of the old woman.一道阴影掠过老太太慈祥的面孔。

13 discouraged   

a.泄气的，沮丧的

参考例句：

• She tactfully discouraged their uninvited guests from staying longer. 她巧妙地使这些不请自到的客人知趣儿，没有再呆下去。
• Husbands are discouraged from voting as proxy for their wives. 不主张丈夫代妻子投票。

14 complimenting   

v.表扬，恭维( compliment的现在分词 )

参考例句：

• They embarrassed her by complimenting her on her beauty. 他们恭维她的美貌使她很不好意思。 来自《简明英汉词典》
• Here are a few magazine articles complimenting our products. 这是些称赞我们产品的杂志文章。 来自辞典例句

15 compliments   

n.问候，道贺，致意；赞美（话）( compliment的名词复数 )；向…送礼以表示敬意；问候；致意v.表扬，恭维( compliment的第三人称单数 )

参考例句：

• He ladles out compliments to everyone, but he's not really sincere. 他见人就大加吹捧，但并非出于诚意。 来自《简明英汉词典》
• You pay her a few compliments and she immediately rises above herself. 你只要稍许赞扬她几句，她即会沾沾自喜。 来自《简明英汉词典》

16 warns   

v.警告( warn的第三人称单数 )；提醒；告诫；预先通知

参考例句：

• He warns that there are some important safety rules for paragliding. 他提醒说滑翔运动里有一些非常重要的安全规则。 来自超越目标英语 第2册
• Cancer expert Barrie Cassileth warns that alternative treatments may pose serious dangers. 癌症专家巴瑞 - 卡西莱斯警告，一些替代性的治疗方法可能导致严重的危险。 来自英汉非文学 - 生命科学 - 癌症与艾滋病

17 affirming   

断言，证实( affirm的现在分词 )

参考例句：

• And what is more life-affirming than sex? 而又有什么能比性更让人确信生命呢？
• Affirming alarm-printing automatically. Sequence keep compliance with alarm collection screen. 确认报警打印自动发生，排列顺序与报警汇总画面一致。

18 users   

用户，使用者( user的名词复数 )

参考例句：

• The new software will prove a boon to Internet users. 这种新软件将会对互联网用户大有益处。
• Ramps should be provided for wheelchair users. 应该给轮椅使用者提供坡道。

19 privacy   

n.私人权利，个人自由，隐私权

参考例句：

• In such matters,privacy is impossible.在这类事情中，保密是不可能的。
• She wept in the privacy of her own room.她在自己房内暗暗落泪。